I just asked a question a few minutes ago regarding this topic, but from a different stand point.
Is it possible to think a guy (your BF if the case) is sexy, but not find him sexually attractive anymore maybe, because you are getting annoyed by certain things he does in his own life like lack of self-esteem, a messy person, or doesn't show any type of want to move higher in the career feild? If so, is it possible to fix this issue once the damage is done?
Update:...and as for the term loser...ouch.
I'm in no way a loser. I'm a genuinely a nice guy, I'm smart and I'm a great friend/BF...I just apparently have a few downfalls that I need to work on to better myself in her eyes and in mine. I have a job and I pay my own bills. Losers don't have these traits.
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Me and my boyfriend been together for 3 yrs.. I am not attracted to him as much as i was when we first started dating and goin out.. He still has the same attraction for me.. howevr i dont feel the same and i know that... so we just added a little more romance into our lives.. i think he needed to be a little more romantic && it works prefectly fine right now!
Well, I am a guy (much older that 18!), but assuming that men and women have similar reaction to this, the answer is definitely yes. My ex-gf is one of the sexiest and attractive women I have ever met and she was great in bed. However, due to all the drama and crap she brought into our relationship, her sex appeal to me completely died off. It was so bad right before we broke up that I did not even find her attractive since all I saw when I looked at her was all the grief she had given me and was giving me...
We were not able to fix it, but if she had addressed some of her issues in a constructive manner it would all have come back. I know this since even during the most difficult times, when she came back from extended trips and I had kind of forgotten our issues, I jumped her bones before she even got 5 feet from the door.
Yes, it certainly is possible to lose that initial attraction. Once the lust wears off and reality kicks in, if the guy is a loser, he's a loser. Dump him and move on.
It's definitely possible for me not to find him sexually attractive anymore for those reasons. In fact, if he had those to begin with, I wouldn't be dating him.
Your best bet (if this is you we're talking about) is to try to fix yourself up. If she stays, she stays. If not, then you will still be in a better position for the next girl that comes along.
You cannot change a guy.....however, with that said, I went through that phase in my life and it turned out to be depression and when I took care of it I changed into a whole new person.
I have never been able to get passed it. my ex had zero ambition and little things would bother me too. eventually i split up and don't have a single regret.