I have had this question in my head for the past 20 years. Okay now I have this issue and I need advices with it. I always had this pleasant unique personality, I have always been smart, talented & gifted. The thing is I have always been fat since I was young, so basically I stayed single for the past 20 years. 2 years ago I started losing weight, now I am thin, in good shape, and I have pleaseant features & looks. I look handsome basically, not to forget about the personality.
WHY AM I STILL SINGLE! I swear nothing is wrong, I always play it cool with girls, but anyway, ppl told me that only because I am looking for it, it wont come to me, and only when I get to lose hope and least expect it, it will come to me.
The thing is, everything in my life always worked that way. Is that the Universe reacting upon me, or is it just unexplained force, because I cannot find any logical reason for this :)
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Girls wants guys who can let loose. It's not about playing cool, its about standing out from the rest. Wink at her, joke with her. If you trip don't hid it, talk about how you are a klutz. A girl doesn't want a guy who thinks he is cool or feels he is. Talk about things that both of you find interesting. Even let her know you are vulnerable. If being heavy is a sensitive thing, talk about how you were heavy once so feels good to lose the weight and compliment her after by saying, ill never look as good as you of course. That will show her you work hard for result, you care about yourself, you aren't afraid of admitting you aren't perfect and made her feel great in her own skin.
It has nothing to do with you, it really just is an unexplained force.
Have you ever lost something and spent an hour looking for it, and then as soon as you give up you go to grab something else and there it is?
Yeah, that's the same force. That's why i've given up searching for anything in life. If you just sit back and enjoy everything as it comes, you will see opportunities where you wouldn't have if you had had your mind set on something else, and you will always be happy.
Just let it roll.
Good luck!
It doesn't have anything to do with physical appearance. The key thing in being attractive (doesn't matter what you look like) is your personality and how you treat and interact with others. You might be looking for it but you might be trying too hard. Just be yourself around people. Don't be overly confident, but still confident about yourself.
Usually things do happen when you least expect it or in a way that you didn't think it would happen.
no logic for stuff like this. only thing i can think
of is you are trying too hard. and the opportunity hasn't
really come up yet. if you want a quick relationship
then go to a bar or club and find some drunk girls. atleast
you are no long single.
but I can tell you that the good relationship take time
to be found.
good luck.
It works that way because you can't really be content with someone else in your life until you are content on your own. Once you are then you can have a balanced relationship and you are more likely to find someone with the right attributes. When you are looking for it, it is usually because you are trying to fill a void that you have and you can end up in an unhealthy relationship. That's been my experience.
Either you're gay and you don't know it yet OR she just hasn't found you yet. Quit worrying about it. Having a girlfriend isn't everything. Relationships are hard work.
There are a lot of ugly fat men with lots of women too. Don't be so sure of your personality.
It took you 18+ years to do something about your fatness. Maybe something else is lacking?
"i always play it cool with girls" < bad.
Because you're so cocky and big headed.