I'm an attractive 28 year old male in southern california. I live alone, have a decent job, 5 digit bank account, in great shape but, have social anxiety. In fact, I'm a recluse/ hermit. I have trouble making friends and initiating conversations. I hate clubs, parties, bars, concerts, sporting events, amusement parks or any place where there's more than 2 people. Am I a loser for being excited about my bday in two months? I'm planning on making vegan fried chicken bites, vegan nachos, and vegan pistachio green tea cupcakes.... That's how I'm spending my bday.... Consuming over 3000 calories.... And then feeling guilty the next day.... And continuing my workout regimen....Yahoo..... Created by K. society-culture-en - other-society-culture-en

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Am I a complete f u c k i n g loser?

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Am I a complete f u c k i n g loser?

I'm an attractive 28 year old male in southern california. I live alone, have a decent job, 5 digit bank account, in great shape but, have social anxiety. In fact, I'm a recluse/ hermit. I have trouble making friends and initiating conversations. I hate clubs, parties, bars, concerts, sporting events, amusement parks or any place where there's more than 2 people.

Am I a loser for being excited about my bday in two months? I'm planning on making vegan fried chicken bites, vegan nachos, and vegan pistachio green tea cupcakes.... That's how I'm spending my bday.... Consuming over 3000 calories.... And then feeling guilty the next day.... And continuing my workout regimen....

Yahoo....

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I don't think that you should see yourself as a loser - why put yourself down - let others do that for you. ; > )

You are just in a negative swing of the pendulum and it is due to swing back the other way. Our mood changes come and go. One day you feel like your on top of the world and the next you laying in a bottomless pit.

You might want to take it as a joke god is playing on you - and without the one part the other can't exist.

You remind me of me about 50 years ago. Now I look back on it and have a good laugh.

If you really think of yourself as a complete loser, think about others who are much worse off.

Just think of the man who had no shoes and was really upset about it until he ran into a joyful old fool who had no feet.

By the way your Bday is everyday, so why should it be any different.

I just know that you know how to meditate and you just seem to be fighting it. You already know who is your best friend and worst enemy. Get with the program - Take a homeless person a $5 or $10 bill or more and tell him that you are celebrating your birthday. Watch how their eyes light up and you find yourself feeling real good for such a deed.

If you can make a stranger feel good, I can guarantee you that you will get the real gift. Sure it sounds goofy but hell, what have you got to lose?

Give it a shot or come up with your own remedy.

You are not a loser - You are a divine being that has just forgotten it. As a child you knew it but after your defeat of Santa and the tooth fairy things seemed to go gloomy.

You don't need to find your entertainment at the ball park, the clubs or even the amusement parks - You create your own happiness and sadness and even if we don't know it it's for our own benefit.

Hang in there Buckwheat - Spring is on it's way.

Anonymous

I would be very suspicious of him - noone speaks in this way to "friends" of the opposite sex - by the way, she may have a b/f who feels the same way, and if he managed to sneak a peek at her txts and saw similar messages, I bet he'd feel more than a little annoyed!!! I think you need to talk to him again, and tell him that unless these messages stop, you'll have to rethink your realtionship with him, as you don't feel you can trust him. Mind you, I very much doubt you'd get a satisfactory answer from him, as it took him a while to think this excuse up, so I think you need to do some serious thinking about your realtionship. After all, if he's doing this sort of thing now, what'll he be doing in say 5 years tiome? Will he actually be doing to this girl the thing he suggested, or will he be cheating on you and expecting you to remain faithful and accept any excuse he offers? If you think that he will cheat on you, then the best steps to take are VERY LONG ones out of his life!!

Ok firstly, that was a bit harsh but the other dude.

Secondly, the best way you can conquer something like this is to force yourself into social situations. Maybe invite a few work friends over, start with something small and wok your way up. You'll be surprised how much of a good time you can actually have. You will be fine, good luck.

Nate

Well if you really are an attractive guy in good shape with a decent job, then just remember that anyone new you meet will not know your past. If you really are a loser in real life or whatever, then just act like you're cool and they'll think you're cool and before you know it, all your friends will think you're cool and you'll stop being a loser.

Anonymous

I find it funny how you think that by putting a space between each space in that swear word, you make it ok. xD I really coudn't care less if you swear though. ANYWAY, you aint a complete loser, but you will be if you don't get out there and get some friends.... do you have a girlfriend/wife? And do you have any friends at all? If not, then yeah, your life sucks.

Bobonalingalongadid

first you describe the guy of womens dreams (so we're told) then you describe the opposite. some people will think you're a loser but it depends how you feel about the situation. if you're unhappy then maybe you should consult a counsillor. maybe they could find reasons for your anxiety and help you to overcome them.