okay guys...i am 12 years old and i thought i had a wonderful life. i was smart, skinny and beautiful and had lots of friends and was nice. my best friend was 2 years older than me and we did everything together.and i was a good influence on her.however, she wasn't very (school) smart, and she turned out to have a depression problem and became emo. then she became boy crazy and started to do things she regretted.she also became anorexic.she saw a phciatrist and is better.now shes starting high school and she started colorguard and is very good at it and she is also very slim and beautiful and now is single and doesnt want anything to do with guys for now. so was in a bad place and she has been working her way up to acheive a higher satus in life. and im very very happy that she has turned around and is a better person now. the only thing is, is that now she has the spotlight. she is gorgeous.shes slim. and every one is sooo proud of her for turning around. she now makes good grades. shes popular. shes amazing at colorguard and is the captian.
but then there's me. im at that awkward age where my weight is fluxuting and ive gained a little. i got braces, which look tacky. i now have acne.i got glasses. im not on any sports team or anything. im still smart, but i just feel really bad. and she has started hanging out with all the preps, and doesnt really talk to me anymore. we dont even go to the same school anymore. even though she still lives right next to me, we faded. and now im just lonely and confused. could someone please help me boost my confidence and tell me ways to become better myself?? or to make new friends?? i just had the most wonderful times with her, but now there gone. is there any advice someone can give me, to help me heal from my lost friendship?? even some was for me to become more popular??or help my image?please help me?
thanks.
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You know, as people age, you lose friends, some of them bad, others good. It seems like you've lost a good friend, and so you're destined to feel like a loser.
But you're not. A lot of people don't do sports and still have friends. You can find any extra curricular that interests you that you can join if you're really feeling lost (and it can be anything, because I highly doubt your school is as dramatic as the movies, where people try to make your life hell for being on the science team or whatever.)
A lot of kids have braces, and they might look tacky for a while, but at least you'll have nice teeth when it's all said and done.
For your acne, just wash your face a little more, and try some medicated products, but I know you feel. I got acne when I was in 6th grade, and I've been having to wash my face all the time ever since. Clearasil and Clean and Clear are probably my two favorite brands. Try them if you want.
And your glasses. I wear contacts, but I wore glasses since 1st grade. Find a nice pair (try on a pair of "cat eyes" they look a lot more modern than Harry Potter glasses XD), or maybe get contacts. No one really cares if you have glasses. Believe me, no one is calling you "four eyes" behind your back, because most people don't give you a second glance, and your friends who do shouldn't if they're actually your friends.
Now for the big issue. Like I said, everyone loses friend, especially at our age, because people are changing so much as teens. You were with her when none of her new friends weren't: When she was depressed, emo, and anorexic. So I'm sure she still cares about you, it's just that you've grown apart. Which isn't a bad thing, it's natural.
Just try meeting new people. Who's sitting next to you in some of your classes? Do they look friendly? If so, get know some of them. Sit with someone you know at lunch, and before you know it, you'll be meeting his/her friends, and then maybe their friends, and one day you'll be accepted into a group.
First off, every girl has an awkward stage, it's pretty much a fact of life. Its because of your hormones, crazy things are going on, and everything will eventually straighten out, so forget about that part cuz all your friends will go through it too. Most people get braces, I have them. As for the acne, wash your face well, and try to stay away from make up. Its another fact of life, and it will eventually clear itself out. If you really hate glasses that much, get contacts. As for the friend, shes a whole two years older than you. The difference between a 12 year old and a 14 year old, is big. All you have to worry about is your responsibilities at school and at home, and the other things will work themselves out. Trust me.
I'm sorry that you and your friend haven't really been hanging out as much as you'd like. you should talk to her about it even if you don't see eachother as much anymore and you might not ever be as close there is no reason to totally cut eachother out of the other's life. she probably doesn't even realize what she's doing and how you feel, or maybe she wants more friends her age. i'm starting high school and my best friend is 12 too and for her she hardly even realizes that there is any age difference at all, but to me it's more obvious and it probably is to her too.
you're 12 and in a couple of years even you'll realize that people you thought would be in your life forever might not always, but there are some who might.
as far as how to make friends, lemme tell you i am one of the most shy people ever and last year i made tons of new friends. just be yourself and you'll naturally find people like you and make new friends.
and about your looks; your weight if fluxuting and you're probably the only one who notices, you have braces and so do most teens in America (they don't look tacky and tust me you're teeth will look beautiful after your braces come off i had braces it sucked but now my teeth look great) you have acne and so do most teens drink lots of water (i'm serious that helps a LOT) and wash your face twice a day you're acne won't be there forever, you have glasses? so do a lot of people if you really hate them talk to your parents about getting contacts.
i don't do any sports either, maybe you have a hidden talent you havn't unlocked yet? photography? art? music? acting? there's tons of stuff you can do and you're smart! :) that's a really good thing! good grades mean a good college which mean a good job :)
you're upset about your friend so your confidence is probably suffering because of that but you seem like a great person and in time you'll feel better trust me.
i hope i helped you.
im sure you still are a beautiful girl, you sound lovely caring for you friend like this. but if she doesnt want to be friends then maybe move on to better best friends.
for your acne use clearasil it works for me. you can also use a icecube wrapped in tissue on each spot to take the reddness down. put make up over them and your confidence will bounce back up.
as for the glasses you can get some pretty stylish ones out there nowadays. treat yourself to a new, cool pair. you'll feel instanly better.
try hard at school, a clever girl everyone likes.
the weight is puppy fat, every one gets it. in a few years you'll look great. you could try cutting down on candy and it will help your weight and spots!
hope you feel good soon
hope i helped
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First thing, Proactive for acne. A good percentage of your classmates have braces, too.
Loss is a part of life. Try taking some sports or cheerleading or dancing or other classes. Write down your goals in life and the steps you need to take to achieve them. Work on that you'll meet some amazing people. Act self confident even if you don't feel that way. Try to get your attention off of worrying about yourself and you'll be happier.
Well, I read all of your problems. in the words of Douglas Adams:
"DON'T PANIC!"
Don't worry, it happens to all of us, my weight fluctuated too, I suddenly shrank, lol. But no, there is nothing to be worried about. Don't base your self confidence on what you look like. Don't worry, you're only twelve. It's normal for you to drift apart from old friends, and your confidence shouldn't be based on what you can do (I don't have self confidence because I don't feel that I need it! I can do what I want, and you can too.), but be based on who you are as a person. Are you good and nice? Well excellent, you haven't anything to worry about. Are you, well, not that nice? If not, see what you can work on, fix it, and you're good to go.
And don't worry about popularity, it comes and goes, but a true friend is forever.
Oh, I almost forgot, don't worry about your acne, it's usually a sign that everything is going smoothly, but if you really don't want it, give a little more attention to washing your face, you may want to use special facial soaps, they cut down on the extra oil that your sebaceous glands produce. Remember to moisturize!
I really hope to help you!
Your friend,
Jourdan Cameron
"We're all pretty bizarre, some of us are just better at hiding it. That's all"
- The Breakfast Club
I think you just need to move on. She has turned her life around and I think you should too. If you think your bad at sports, maybe take up drama or art. Find what your good at and do it. Don't let her hold you back. Everyone goes through an awkward phase- heck that's what being a teenager is all about.
You're not a total loser...yet.
Look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself everything that's great about you, and not the things that you hate.
Get some Proactive to clean up the acne. Get a makeover. Do anything!
To make new friends, go out places and talk to people. It doesn't matter where. Whether it's at school, or the skating rink, there are tons of people who could be your friend.
You have to get over your old BFF, and find a new one. Join some sports teams, or any type of extra-curricular activities.
This is how you clean up your image, and become more popular!
YOUR NOT A LOSER!!! i am the same age, i have glasses i need braces and i dont have many friends i am smart and i dont do sports. Do What I Do,
Straighten your hair if it wavy
wear a br@ if you dont
get glasses that fit your face
if you dont like your braces dont show them
Wear your style
You will fit in some where you dont have to be popular (everybody hate the popular kids!)
Have A bff that will go threw thick and thin with you
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well first of all you don't need popular .
Popularity is just well attention hogging in my opinion .I just think you should really talk to your friend tell her how you feel or arrange to go with her some place with her you and her.That way you get to talk about your problems.But I guess you feel she's better than you.It's ok,no one's perfect not even your friend.
Come one popularity gets you in wrong path soon popularity isn't that great .Trust me.
Everyone at times feel horrible about them selves,acne does lose your confidence.I have acne well it's not that great at ALL. Try not touching your face it gets more oily and causes pimples.Try washing your face 2-3 times a day,or when you go out .Since you get clogged pores.Try wearing eyeliner it lightens up your eyes a bit.Wear nice clothing anything you say or think makes you look comfortable.Avoid the little thought behind your head saying your not pretty.Ignore it everyone's pretty whether inside or out! :)