Am I considered as a LONER?
I mean, at school, I prefer being alone and read a book peacefully, so i never really had the chance to gain a lot of friends (not that I care) plus, most of the people in my school are interested in what I think are immature stuff so i don't really relate.. I mean for example, they have really simple problems and they act like it's the end of the world. But, i do have like a few friends outside the school that I hang with sometimes. The problem is, I care what people think of me..A LOT so do you think people think of me as a loner?
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Yes. I am too. I enjoy it,quite honestly. There's nothing wrong with reading instead of giggling over boys. I read instead of being social. I honestly don't care
Some might consider you a loaner, some might not. My daughter was very much the same as you. She had a few friends from school and church, but her best friend went to the HS across the city so she was the brainy artsy girl that kind of stayed by herself a lot. She had 4 close friends at school and they were all art students and they were quiet and precocious and felt that the teen drama was just that, teen drama. She is 23 and at a University now and is still pretty much close to a few really good people, gets fantastic grades, does not waste her time on Drama, and does not care if she is looked at as a loaner. She is more mature and together than most people her age. Do not worry. Just be yourself. once you are out of High School and in College it will not matter anymore.
Technically yes, to me "loner" is just a mean word for "independent". You really shouldn't care what people think about you though, as a kid I was called a loser for being alone... Now most of the people who picked on me are working at fast-food resturants and are not enjoying life... Do not care what people say, you are more important than anyone else.. Having a friend is a good thing though so if you can get one that is just like you, you will enjoy every minute with them... Sorry if this got a little strange
No. You are a selective person, and possibly a bit distanced socially, but you wouldn't fit my description of a loner by a long shot. You strike me as observant and interesting and not angrily or bizarrely self-isolated like most loners.
By the way there isn't any other way to read a book but alone. It isn't a joint activity whether you 're in an out-of-the-way nook or on a crowded subway car. You always read a book alone in your head unless you are a male who happens to be reading a comic book or Playboy magazine. (Reading comic books and Playboy at a certain age is definitely not a solitary activity for males.)
I'm sure this will do little good, but let me ask anyways. Why should you care that much about another's opinion of you? If they are your friends then they support you unconditionally. Not much to learn there unless they are very good friends who would constructively criticize you as he/she felt necessary. If they are your rivals in some way they will always seek to tear you down if they lack principles. So although you should care about some opinions you must never care about all of them. As you mature you should find yourself doing a much better job of figuring out whose opinion is important and whose is not. It gets easier as you gain more experience with people, which is precisely what you lack at this stage of your young life.
Hope this helps. Take care!
I'm the same way! I just keep reminding myself there is a life after high school. For people like us, we get to move on. I have my 2 best friends and could care less about everyone else. It's ok to be independent :) Plus, you said you have a few friends, which is good enough in my opinion.
yes sweety i think they do. but that is not a bad thing. is this something seriously affecting youre life and emotions, is it possible as serious as social anxiety, look it up and see if it sounds like you. im a loner too, and as sum1 else said, i barely think of my schooldays anymore. but there are those ppl that it really causes a concern for them that they never get over, but i dont know how much this really bothers you just from the short question you have asked.
It doesn't matter what people think of you it's what you think about yourself that matters besides if you have friends then your not a loner and just because you like to read books doesn't make you one either
Well im kinda like that to. People dont think your a loner they probably just think you dont like to be botherd by peoples probloms. And you shouldnt care what other people think about you just go out there and talk to somone ask them what their fav book is or somtin like that
I feel that i have written this question , i feel so awkward right now, i have always asked this question to myself, never had the courage to this. My friends , i feel like me , and always want to hang out this place that place. but somehow i feel reading a book or listening to slow jazz at home. Its so good. my friends counsel me that i should go out. However i don't feel like going out every time. I feel like going out to some good place not just anyplace anytime.however i do not care what they think now because they have tried to to things to harm me , they do not like me reading and stuff they just want me to spend with them and on them , i didn't however. What else can i say , wish i could have met you once.
So you do not worry, you have your own choice of spending time. AND BELIEVE ME YOU ARE SPECIAL TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!! .BYE WHOEVER YOU ARE.
they might, dont feel bad, im usually a lonely person in school too, i do have some friends here and there but, mostly i dont talk to anybody, thats because i am way too quiet.