Ill make this short and simple. I have always been overweight. At 16 I was at 245 pounds. Imagine how that feels. I was always the kid being made fun of at school, church with friends, public. When I turned 18 I got really serious and lost 95 pounds. So I was at about 152 and I am a 5"9 male. At the time I had a Job at a nursing home (they never saw me overweight). When i was 20 I remember I went from 152 to about 165 and everyone at work & church bothered me about it. It bothered me so much that I stopped working out and now I am 21 and currently weigh 275 pounds. For a while I stopped socializing with all my friends. I still have my same GF of 2 years believe it or not lol. I don't attend church anymore because I am so afraid of the criticism. People are just really mean sometimes and the comments really affect me. Well after all of this I get a lot of mood swings. I can be happy and feel like I am going to overcome this and move on & then when I see my reflection on a car or when someone says something about it I would get really down and feel like trash. I have also become very defensive and my GF says that I look really mean when I get upset. I am not violent or anything like that but I do argue a lot with my family now. I currently have a new job which I started recently in a company that my friend opened and everything has been ok. My friend doesn't bother me about my weight because I spoke to him and he really respects me but today one of the lady's asked me what happened to me. Her words exactly " what happened to you? You need to get on a diet. Last time I saw you you were so slim and looked so good" her words killed my mood and my day.
What do you think it is? What should i do when I face difficult situations like this one?
** btw I have an appointment for a bypass surgery in November so I am hoping that I get approved lol :)
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I suggest beginning with 50 mg on the first day, and if no adverse reaction, keep increasing it until reaching the desired level, to let your system accustom itself to it gradually. Google maximum safe dosage. Alternatively, use SAMe (S-adenosy-L-methionine) but nothing else. Has the advantage of working more quickly than St John's wort. Use only the butanedisulfonate form in enteric-coated tablets, or in capsules. Try 400 -1,600 mg a day on an empty stomach. Begin at 400 mg. I note that Dr. Weil at www.drweil.com is now recommending Kava for anxiety. Google its hazards, and supplies, if interested.
I'd avoid medications, except as a last resort, and even then, only use temporarily, as they don't address the causes, merely (imperfectly) treat the symptoms, and carry risks, and side effects. Learn and employ the relaxation techniques (begin with Progressive Muscle Relaxation) and the EFT variant for use in public places, in case it is needed there. More, such as Yoga Nidra (a series of easy mental exercises only; no bodily flexibility is required) are shown on pages L, & B, at 8m.com.
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