My husband and I recently found out that we are pregnant with our second child. Our first child is 15 months old and is wonderful. We both have very stable jobs and own our own home. My parents are excited about the new news. Surprised as we all are, but supportive. My husbands whole family is treating me rudely. They come over all of the time, don't speak to me, or ask how I am feeling. They just sit on our couch and talk to my husband. Last pregnancy, they were sooo excited and so on, this time they are even telling other people that they aren't happy with it. I have no idea why,other than they may be jeolous in a wierd way. They even talk about our finances (which we are very stable), so I have no idea. They are obviously upset with me, and as far as I know, I have never done or said anything to offend them other than I got pregnant! Please help. Any suggestions? I feel like they think I had some evil "get pregnant" plan up my sleeve!
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In Law Drama. Leave it alone. Let them say what they would like and don't get into it with them. In Law Drama will suck you in like a vaccuum and you will never be seen by the sane world again. Just let your husband know that if they continue with this behavior that you will ban them from your hospital room which you have the right to do. You can even ban them from seeing the baby at all while in the hospital. Let him tell them.
Have you and your husband discussed this at all?? If it were me, I would start there and see what he has to say. maybe he will have a talk with the family members that are being especially vocal. I can't imagine what their problem could be...its not like you need their support. It sounds like you, hubby, and first child are independant and doing fine.
Oh, and when my hubby called his parents to tell them we were expecting baby #1 his dad says "what's the rush?" We've been together for ten years, married for one of the ten when we got pregnant so what the heck is he talking about?! UGH, in laws!!!
Talk to your husband about it. I'm surprised he hasn't said anything to them about this sooner. I mean I'm sure he notices. Either you or him need to ask them what's going on and why they're upset with you. Because it's obviously upsetting you. You need to get it out in the open before you can deal with it.
If you don't know what the problem is, you can't fix it. Unless you're comfortable not talking to them for your whole pregnancy, then I suggest you talk to them about it now.
Talk to your husband he might have told them that it was your fault you got pregnant and he didn't want this child and that might be where they got this idea. Otherwise your husband should confront them about why they are not treating you well. Or you could just behave like an adult and ask them yourself but it might be that you already know the answer and don't want to deal with it.
Hmmmm...in-laws can be difficult. I would talk with your husband very gently (men can get protective over their parents) and explain to him how you feel. Get him on your side. His support in this is the only true way to help the situation. Ask him to talk to his parents and see why they disapprove. Are they financially unstable? Maybe the feel like you all are more successful then them or they were at that stage in their lives or even now. Who knows. If that is the case there is nothing you can do and take it for what it is. THERE PROBLEM. Don't blame yourself and try not to stress. In Laws are difficult, mine drive me crazy. But it is what it is and I just try to get my hubby to support my feelings. Having him on my side is important and makes it easier.
I have the same problem. His dad is excited but his mom could care less! She was so nice to me until we told her were having a baby. I stopped working because I got so sick from the pregnancy and he makes enough money to take care of us. Now she is always talking about how I need to get a job until the baby comes. If he doesn't call her in like 3 days she will call and say how she thinks he is dead. She talks to him forever about his job and his coaching and his school, everything but me and the baby. Now she makes rude comments to me. He just tells me that's how she is and to ignore it but it drives me crazy!!!! I just gave up and It doesn't bother me anymore. Good luck and write me if you need to vent, I know how annoying this is.
Your husband needs to know that you need him to support you and refuse to admit them into your home unless they treat you with respect! He doesn't seem to realize the situation. Talk to him and ask him to talk to his family before you do something crazy or go ballistic. This is YOUR house, your Haven. If people can't be decent, they should Not be there!
People that act like that are not worth your time. Life is short, If there are people that act like that around me (family or not) I choose to remove them from my life. Don't get me wrong, I am civil with them but nothing goes farther than that. They may be too nosey or just have mental problems. Don't let them ruin your mood. They don't matter
well i think as long as you and your hubby are happy that it doesnt matter what the in laws say. my hubby was married and then he split up with his ex wife and then we got togeather and i got pregnant when his daughter was like 21 weeks and my mother in law was like you messed up my granddaughers life she is still a baby. made me mad... if they are treating you bad try to stay away.. you need to stay calm for that baby.. and tell your husband how you feel he should tell his parents to stop acting like an a$$.... good luck!
I think you should just sit them down and ask them what is going on? It could be something completely un-related, or a mis-understanding. You won't know if you don't ask. And, you don't need any added stress by worrying about it. If it is just something petty, then, you'll just have to brush it off, and know for yourself that you did nothing wrong. :-)