It just seems to me that the only real solution to the masses of these bratty spoiled children is Corporal Punishment. As a kid (only 10 years ago) I would be often spanked for breaking rules and slapped for disobeying my parents. And now I'm glad I got it. I don't feel abused or hurt like most of those parents now adays claim I should. I'm not a violent person in the least. My parents would set rules, and then punish me if I broke them. When I was 6, or even 7. I already knew what I shouldn't do just by having a hunch from the sort of rules my parents set. What I mean by this is that things that were not specified in rules I would obey as well. I have had great respect for my parents, and they have always treated me well. Its just after seeing all these "I would NEVER land a hand on my precious child" thing as well as all the anti-corporal punishment opinions nowadays its no wonder the amount of spoilt/bratty children are around. My father often told me his school used to discipline through corporal punishment, as well as my mothers. They were not violent people as well. I hardly knew what violence was until I was 8 or 9. My parents both said that the way discipline was delivered was very effective.
Thank you.
Update:I disagree Jenifer. I have seen people claim exactly that on shows about these children. It does not work for the brats I am talking about.
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Well, I've given a few light pops on butt to mine too, but they never got a "proper spanking" like I did while growing up. I know also many of my friends kids who have never experienced even that much of a "corporal punishment". Still they seem to become very well behaving and balanced people.
I was spanked pretty often at home and way into my teens. Spankings were also promoted by schools that time. Still I did not turn violent nor a depressive person, not even regarding that by modern day standarts the spankings I got would be close to abusing (leather belts to bare butts, and so on). Still I remember learning best from the times when other discipliine methods (especially a good talk) was used on me. Looking back I got many spankings that I don't even remember the reason I got it. Again I got spanked for the same reasons again, so I guess spankings did not work on me.
I got wonderfull parents, but I guess that giving frequent spankings was more like an old-school habit to them.
I'm not 100% against it, but I tend to believe that spankings aren't necessary
Agreed :)
I do have to say that there is a fine line between a spanking and abuse though and many parents cross that line when angry.
I have a discipline system set up for my 5 year old.
1st offense - verbal warning
2nd offense- time out in her room
3rd offense - she has to stand in the corner in the living room with her hands behind her back. If she talk, she stays there longer.
If none of those work she gets a firm pop on the butt. It very seldom ever goes past the first punishment.
She is a very well behaved child & is a joy to be around. Her teachers adore her because she is extremely smart and has a wonderful personality.
People say that children who were spanked should feel abused because they didn't experience it.
Spankings don't work on all children. It worked on me.. but my sister on the other hand ran wild.
As long as you aren't abusing your children, it is no one else's business how you discipline them!!
There are plenty of things parents used to do that are now proven to be harmful, like rubbing alcohol on your baby's gums when they are teething or drinking/smoking through your pregnancy. Just because something was used in the past and not everyone was traumatized from it, it doesn't make it ok. The "solution to the masses of these bratty, spoiled children" is to prevent it from happening to begin with. If you don't let your child get away with poor behaviour from the beginning and don't spoil your child and give them a sense of entitlement, then you shouldn't need to "beat" that behaviour out of them.
My son is 3.5 years old and since he could repeat the words, he has had had to say please and thank you before he could get something and after he was given it (even a cup of milk). By the age of two he knew he was not getting anything if he didn't say please and it was getting taken back if he didn't say thank you. If he screamed because he got mad about something, he got a time out. If he threw a toy it was taken away. No matter what, he was always given a timeout and when it was over, he was given an explanation as to why he was there and why it is unacceptable behaviour and he then needs to apologize. He is a toddler, he is going to need constant reminding to adjust his behaviour, but that is what a parent's job is. I find it very lazy when parents can't be bothered to teach their kids and all they do is smack them around when they make a mistake. It just teaches your child to fear you.
I was never spanked as a child and I always had respect for my parents. I had chores I had to do daily and if I didn't do them then privileges were taken away. I had to say my pleases and thank yous when I wanted something. As I got older, I can say that I really do appreciate that my parents TAUGHT me that there are consequences in life when you do not hold up your responsibilities. In real life if you do not pay a bill, your cable will be cut off. If you don't show up for work like you agreed, you will be fired. In real life, if you don't pay your electricity bill, there is nobody showing up on your doorstep to smack you across the face and then turn your electricity back on. I would hope my children will have the same level of respect for me as I did for my parents. Respect is not the same thing as fear.
You do realize that about 70% of the population still spanks their kids, right? If there is really this huge epidemic of "bratty spoiled children" then I guess we need to find something else to blame. It can't be a lack of spanking if well over half of all parents still do it.
Personally I think anyway to raise a child is fine as long as you set boundaries and are firm and consistent. I believe I can do that without needing to spank. No electronics for a week is practically a death sentence in my house. Just because someone doesn't spank doesn't mean they don't discipline their child.
gonna be real blunt here...but haven't you noticed adults having spoiled bratty behaviors...it's not just the kids...we've evolved into this...there are many situations where we would have been punished as children, but these days, parents feel if they did it, expect it from your kids, & allow a ton of misbehaviors stating 'kids will be kids'...again, some people have taken this into their adulthood...I favor corporal punishment IF it works for the child...there are many ways to discipline, this is just one more...
I just think there are some things that sending you to your room, or taking a phone for a period of time just don't resolve, not to mention that I have to give you those things in order to use them against you in the first place.
I have rarely had to spank one of the kids, twice in eight years as a matter of fact and two different kids out of our five. But they know its an option that we will not hesitate to use.
Couldn't have said it better myself!!! Look around at all the disrespectful brats running around and tell me they dont need their butts beat!!!
How about you instil good morals and set firm boundaries from the moment they can understand and then you won't have to resort to animalistic physical violence.