You need some actual studies where you can go and find on line.
I can tell you the pros. You get a child who will not act out usually! The reason is that they are afraid that a parent is going to hit them.
The negatives:
It circumvents a child's maturation of conscience! Once hit the child believes that the slate has been wiped clean and they don't have to feel guilty. A normal person feels guilt when they do things they feel will let down their parents! Thjeir conscience, not an abuser, stops them from repeating the act!
Everyoe learns by their own mistakes. Children are no different. A child with no conscience is never going to be stopped by feeling guilty!
Usually corporal punishment has more to do with a parents anger than a child's misbehavior and is always not equal to the act! There may be some people who hit their children not out of anger, but in 16 years of investigating child abuse I never found one!
Corporal punishment leads to child abuse as a child becomes more out of control, especially if they have an authoritarian parent and a passive one. Both styles of parenting are not very good parenting styles. One can't set limits and follow through, the other is based in all the things a child should not learn.
One is that big people of 225 pounds can hit, and sometimes kill, children who weigh less than 20 pounds. It is OK so they have permission when they grow up! And it is not just children, it is parental assault as well
In the end there are no positives of corporal punishment because it teaches nothing positive and fails to give a child the conscience they will need when no one is standing over them ready to hit! If you believe that hitting a child is appropriate 'teaching" you are sadly mistaken!
All corporal punishment has a psychological component as well.
Even slapping a young child's hands or slap in the buttocks. They don't know right from wrong. Do you actually think that "teaches" anything? Makes YOU feel better though, doesn't it! Probably because you were not watching them. Though I would never say never to a a slap on the hands or buttocks.
I especially like people with young children who get angry and grab their childs arm, yanking them and giving them a slap on the rear. Many times, as a child is developing, this will cause chip fractures of their humerus. An actual stronger ligament pulling bone right off!
I have seen time and time again children who were abused (often those who practice corporal punishment actually are practicing abuse) who can't control their temper either, shaking a child to death for the crime of crying. I have spent many hours in the PICU at Dartmouth for SBS children and have seen babies femurs (both) snapped like chicken legs because mom's boyfriend was pissed at her!
"Spare the Rod and Spoil the child"...BS. The rod they are referring to is a shepherd's rod to guide their flock, not to beat them!
Want a source, go to the UNH Family site or pick out some books from 2 people who are experts in that area, and are friends of mine, Murray Strauss, PhD and David Finkelhor, PhD!
And I know what I am going to hear...Save it. I have heard it all and it doesn't fly! You are the fallout of what I am talking about!
Corporal punishment needs to be brought back to our schools. Right now my child rides on a bus where the 8th graders think it's their right to say the F word every other second, and throw chewed gum into people's hair. Parents have lost the right to discipline their children, yet society wants to blame the parents when something goes wrong with their kid! These kids need to be taught that there are consequences for everything that you do. There is a huge difference between a spanking and throwing someone down a flight of stairs or beating them with a bat.
The behavior of kids today in and out of school has gotten horrendous, partially because of the lack of corporal punishment nowadays. Ask any parent or teacher. It's getting out of hand.
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You need some actual studies where you can go and find on line.
I can tell you the pros. You get a child who will not act out usually! The reason is that they are afraid that a parent is going to hit them.
The negatives:
It circumvents a child's maturation of conscience! Once hit the child believes that the slate has been wiped clean and they don't have to feel guilty. A normal person feels guilt when they do things they feel will let down their parents! Thjeir conscience, not an abuser, stops them from repeating the act!
Everyoe learns by their own mistakes. Children are no different. A child with no conscience is never going to be stopped by feeling guilty!
Usually corporal punishment has more to do with a parents anger than a child's misbehavior and is always not equal to the act! There may be some people who hit their children not out of anger, but in 16 years of investigating child abuse I never found one!
Corporal punishment leads to child abuse as a child becomes more out of control, especially if they have an authoritarian parent and a passive one. Both styles of parenting are not very good parenting styles. One can't set limits and follow through, the other is based in all the things a child should not learn.
One is that big people of 225 pounds can hit, and sometimes kill, children who weigh less than 20 pounds. It is OK so they have permission when they grow up! And it is not just children, it is parental assault as well
In the end there are no positives of corporal punishment because it teaches nothing positive and fails to give a child the conscience they will need when no one is standing over them ready to hit! If you believe that hitting a child is appropriate 'teaching" you are sadly mistaken!
All corporal punishment has a psychological component as well.
Even slapping a young child's hands or slap in the buttocks. They don't know right from wrong. Do you actually think that "teaches" anything? Makes YOU feel better though, doesn't it! Probably because you were not watching them. Though I would never say never to a a slap on the hands or buttocks.
I especially like people with young children who get angry and grab their childs arm, yanking them and giving them a slap on the rear. Many times, as a child is developing, this will cause chip fractures of their humerus. An actual stronger ligament pulling bone right off!
I have seen time and time again children who were abused (often those who practice corporal punishment actually are practicing abuse) who can't control their temper either, shaking a child to death for the crime of crying. I have spent many hours in the PICU at Dartmouth for SBS children and have seen babies femurs (both) snapped like chicken legs because mom's boyfriend was pissed at her!
"Spare the Rod and Spoil the child"...BS. The rod they are referring to is a shepherd's rod to guide their flock, not to beat them!
Want a source, go to the UNH Family site or pick out some books from 2 people who are experts in that area, and are friends of mine, Murray Strauss, PhD and David Finkelhor, PhD!
And I know what I am going to hear...Save it. I have heard it all and it doesn't fly! You are the fallout of what I am talking about!
Corporal punishment needs to be brought back to our schools. Right now my child rides on a bus where the 8th graders think it's their right to say the F word every other second, and throw chewed gum into people's hair. Parents have lost the right to discipline their children, yet society wants to blame the parents when something goes wrong with their kid! These kids need to be taught that there are consequences for everything that you do. There is a huge difference between a spanking and throwing someone down a flight of stairs or beating them with a bat.
The behavior of kids today in and out of school has gotten horrendous, partially because of the lack of corporal punishment nowadays. Ask any parent or teacher. It's getting out of hand.
look up the number of juvenile crimes 25 years ago when corporal punishment was still allowed in schools vs. now.
youll see a huge increase.
coroporal punishment, gave kids a reason to behave and wasn't abusive.
I like spanking my GF. So that's a pro point :)