Before I start, here's a little backstory:
Backstory:
My friend introduced me to a girl whom I've never met. My friend lied and said she was interested in me so I started flirting with her, however, she started to flirt back and we got to know each other quite well. We were both singers and we both don't date too often, so I gave it a try to get her to like me. It worked, we were in love like Romeo and Juliet but then I noticed that something wasn't quite right, as if she was hiding something... hence ends my backstory
The Situation:
I recently found out the girl was dating someone else during her time working at a Play and the guy she was dating said that she'd have to wait because he's dealing with problems. And so... my friend who introduced me to her mistakenly thought she'd get over him if she'd date me so now I'm put in a situation I was totally unaware of until now. She's still deciding over me and him, and if I get chosen, I'd feel completely guilty because it was my fault for putting her into the situation... I can't get over that one fact, any advice on what to do..?
Answers & Comments
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Of course in the game of dating and romance, it is a comepetition. I mean that in the sense that when. Your out at the club, bar, bookstore, or where ever, you hope to present yourself better than the next person so that you have opportunity to get to know each other better. Its not.really thought of as a competition but in essence, that basically what happens. So with your current situation, unfortunately your trying to win over the person by your charm, personality, and over all person that you are. With that being said, you shouldn't feel guilty (tho easier said than done) because she picked who she thought suited her personality and her life better. If you do feel gulity then the best thing you could do is explain to her how you feel. Letting her know you are not trying to put her in this situation. Explain to her that you are there for her if she needs you.
she has your number if and when she makes up her mind that your not willing to put any more pressure on her than needed. On the other hand if this the " one" you should fight to keep her close and a part of your life. I don't mean go beating people up, but continue to let her know how you feel about her, ask her out, spending time.with her, supporting her decisions. Competing for the "one".