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seems to me he is a dirt ball and just wants to impress new girlfriend so she won't see him as a dirtball and he can lay all the blame at your feet and make hisself look good, I would keep to the origanal plan and stick his but with the child support he owes his children, it isn't your fault he has not had the balls to stand up to the plate and spend quality time with his kids up up until he finds a new woman in his life. Been there, and it makes me sick how low a man will go to impress some other woman when he really don't care how he has devestated the kids in the past by his behaviour.

The solution is simple. Get a lawyer to handle the mess. Whether the custody is 50\50 he still needs to pay some kind for child support. Document everything you can so that when and if you go to court you have evidence of what has happened. Be strong, when I was young my Dad took my Mom through similar changes. Make sure you make logical and wise choices for your children. Do become too emotional, the kids are first.

Child support and custody issues are two separate things. He cannot trade off one for the other. If you have a custody agreement in place he should stick to it. However, with his new income, he may decide to go to court and fight you on this.

He may have turned over a new leaf. Who knows? I guess it is easy to be guarded when past experience has taught you that he can be irresponsible but what if he has finally come to the realisation that he needs to step up to the plate and start being the father he should be? I sincerely hope that this is the case.

Finally, you might end up needing a lawyer to get this sorted out.

Best of luck

Is there an order for him to pay child support? Has he ever paid child support?

He won't get 50/50 time from a court if he has rarely seen the children.

Sue him for child support and request that his visitation be "phased in," so the kids get to know him.

It is not about you or him is it? It is about your children having time with their dad. If he is now able to share custody and your kids are wanting to spend more time with dad, let it happen. I was in your place and still am. I micro-managed the time with dad and now he does not even try to see them very often at all. My fault maybe, but he was not on time to visit and did not show up and this and that and this and that. But the fact is, your kids have one dad and he is it. If you try to micro manage the time he is willing to give, the kids will blaim you, because your the one who is always there and the responsible parent. It is a fine line between love and hate and you need to find a way to ambivilant to his fault to secure you kids having any relation with their dad. They will learn who he is and what he has to offer them on their own. Mine did and they are adults now who rarely spend time looking for dad. Your kids are young and still have time to have a dad relationship. It's ok to not like him youself, but your kids love him?

Good luck Mom and know that I totally understand what you are going through.

He has the right to the parenting plan set forth in your divorce proceedings. That can only change with a court order. Child support can only change with a court order and monetary compensation is determined by how much time he spends with him.

I think he answered that for you with his previous behavior. Sometimes in a new relationship, they either want to 'show off' or have someone trying to change them. These decisions are usually resolved around what it is in the best interest of the children and he certainly has not behaved as responsible/caring father.

Whatever is in your divorce decree still stands.........Unless he takes it to court. I doubt that he'll do that.........since it would give you the opportunity to have your support re-adjusted, based on his current income.

keep to the agreement that you original had...he is trying to play you at the gf urging I'm sure...watch out