If we had custody of my husbands 14yr. old when she had her baby, who had custody of the baby? Did we? And if we gave custody of the 14yr. old to her Biological Mom, would we need to give custody of the baby also? This is in Ohio
Update:Please go to law and ethics and read my entire question and details. It is listed under same question...Custody Issues
Update 3:4 days ago
O.K. 14 yr. old lost all rights to baby, the 14yr. olds Mother now has custody, we are in a custody battle for the baby who is now 4yr's old. The Grandmother had 4 girls who were raised by their Fathers or foster homes. The Grandmother was also charged with neglect at one time. But, this is becoming a battle over the child. How can the Grandmother have a leg to stand on with her past history? What can we do? We have a very stable life, great income, beautiful home, etc.. The Grandmother has moved 5 times (at least) in the past 3 years, has a new guy living with her every couple months, lives on welfare, hangs out in bars all the time, passes the child around like a puppy. The little girl still wets her pants and has a big problem with biting. What can we do? We were hoping that someone would have told us that we would have had to sign over baby when we signed over 14yr. old.
Update 5:do his job right. I have been the one to do the research, get court documents, police reports, etc.. We haven't even talked to a Judge yet, it is always in the Grandmothers Attorneys office. What can we do
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Let them both go, CPS never does their job right, but don't put yourself in harms way over a baby who isn't yours. you did your part, let it go. You can't win in this situation. Is the 14 year old African-American?
His chances of being named the primary custodian are not good in the shared custody if all what you say is true. He may be seeking shared custody because he is planning on asking for child support from you. It sounds like you are the bread winner and he may be after part of your money. If he gets a job then he less to argue with to get child support. If you can get proof that he is physically capable of working and just faking the injury or disability your lawyer can make sure the judge knows that. Push for the full custody and the every other weekend.
At the young age of 14 I would say that since you have custody of the girl.....You ought to also take responsibility and help with the child. NOT adopt or anything like that. BUT help her, be there for her. As if she were your own birth child. If my daughter had a baby at 14...I would want to see her finish school and become somebody. BUT it is her baby. I would help all I could and when the girl is adult enough....of course, she's responsible and actually always was. Since she got pregnant. But she'll need lots of help at that age. Be sure she does all...if not MOST of the caring for that baby. Make sure the baby knows...who the mom is here. You'll always be the gramma. Good luck to you.
The child in question the 14 year old girl is the one that has custody of her baby, she give it life no matter how old she is, she is the parent. Sorry not trying to be rude but her child's custody is in her hands and no one else. The only papers you should of had anything to do with this birth was confirming she was going to be in your household and you was willing to help if needed, in anyway weather it be a drive to the doctor or what ever.
The court will see it as the mother has full custody of her baby, no matter how old she is, where she lives. If you can prove she is an unfit mother you can stand a chance of gaining this baby. However if she moves in with her mother, she takes her baby. And if by chance she is find to be an unfit mother, she has the right to sign over her parental rights to HER mother no matter who disagrees. She is the mother. This is HER baby.
The 14 year old has custody of her own baby. A mother's rights as a parent supersedes her status as a minor in matters of the child.
If the 14 year old has not been found unfit, the baby is her custody. You can pass the 14 year old back and fourth that doesn't change that she is the mother of the baby and it is her custody.
one your husbands 14 year old has custody of the baby that she gave birth too. And because she has givin birth to a child of her own then by law she is an adult. She can choose where she wants to live, and with who she wants to live. If you would like though you can go to court the try to take custody away from her on the grounds that she can't finacially support the child. But until then the 14 year old has custody of her child until she is proven unfit. and She has custody of herself as long as she has custody of her child.
Your local division of Youth and Family Services has all that information. If you call them they can give you details. It's usually attached to the Human Services Division of your County or State.
In NJ, the child is the legal guardian of her child. She becomes somewhat emancipated. If you can't get an answer from Child Services, call Legal Aid.
Why do you want to take her baby away. This is not right. You can help her take care of her child and be there for her, encourage to keep going to school. ...
In your question you said my husband's 14years old. It is because the child is not yours. What would you do if it was your real child's baby. Would you try to take away his/her baby?