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It could be, you have to prove it first. Documentation, Documentation.....

No probably not. My husband's ex wife is a pot smoker and had several DUI's...she takes the kids to bars with her...she still has custody. Make sure you document everything to show the court a pattern...they will probably give her a chance to do better before taking custody away from her...keep records of everything so you can show the court what kind of mother she is. DO NOT CALL CPS unless you REALLY feel there is something wrong and even then they might not take your call because you are in the middle of a custody case. If you are worried about your daughter, talk to her doctor or teachers and if they are concerned LET them make the call to CPS so you don't lose custody for parental interference or trying to alienate your daughter from her mother. Simply put your daughter needs both mom and dad and you might not like your ex but she is still your daughter's mother.

You have to be able to show she is an unfit mother. Those things will be evidence, but are not a sure thing. Gambling is not the same as having a gambling problem. I am sure you have skeletons in your closet too. Don't forget that your daughter will be hurt by what you two say against each other so for her sake try to come to a civil agreement and keep it out of court. Personally though I think it is better for the child to be in one house and have stability. If at all possible the parents should be the ones to move in and out if you decide on joint custody so the child has stability.

Good luck.

Unfortunately, you have to prove it. You won't be able to just go in and accuse her, even if you know it's true. Does she have an arrest record? Are there people willing to come in and testify for you? It's heartbreaking and frustrating, I know, but the load falls on you to prove it. And, I hope you can. My ex husband was drinking all the time, smoking pot, etc....and the only saving grace I had was that he had a record a mile long and was well known for all the wrong reasons by the police in our town. Also, my father was a well respected lawyer and judge....so that helped me out alot. I hope you can prove these things and get your daughter out of that environment. Just PLEASE do NOT put your daughter in the middle of anything ugly that you might get into. And, do NOT talk badly about her mother to her. I doubt that you would, you sound very responsible. My son was 4 when I got divorced and he remembers alot of things. Good luck

Many years ago, I used to work for cps, so I can give ya a little info pertaining to your dope smokin ex. #1 Family courts dont like taking the child out of his or her comfort zone, so if your daughter is in a safe loving clean enviroment that would work against you, now if the house is unkept, and your ex is leaving her home alot at all hours of the night, thats in your favor. #2 Although courts say they dont favor daughter staying with mom, son staying with dad, they do, they seem to like keeping females with females and males with males, studies have proven this over the years, so that can go against you, but it also depends on your judge? #3 Income, Income,Income, money is a huge deal breaker, so Im hoping you have the money and a suitable home before you even try to take this to court? And of course last but not least, they say they want to do whats in the best interest of the child, while they do make mistakes at times, most of the time they do get it right, so If you really believe in your mind that your daughter would be better off with you then fight with everything youve got! And keep a log or a jounal of all the nights she goes out, and when she gambles or does drugs etc, even if it doesnt seem important, document it, write it down. 20 years ago, Id tell ya, you dont have a snow balls chance in hell, but today fathers are winning custody battles everyday. So do what you need to do to protect your child from danger, and its sad that its her own mom that she needs to be protected from, but do it! And you have a lucky little girl, because I can tell that you truly have the best interest of your daughter on your mind.

Do you have physical proof of all this or just your word? In court you need proof of EVERYTHING.

Is she good with your daughter when they ARE together? The BEST thing that you can do for your daughter is to try to be civil and get along with her mother and be FRIENDS even if you can't stand her. Your daughter needs BOTH parents and doesn't need to EVER see you two fight because then she will feel as if she has to choose one or the other and that is not fair to EVER put a child in that position. Try going to mediation and telling her your concerns...you MIGHT be surprised at the outcome.

Good luck!!!

Yo have several opportunities open to you,firstly i would consider what life my daughter is having,is it any good for her and how she is reacting towards it.

If you fear that she is being neglected in any way,then you have the right to report this to police and social services,who will hopefully help in every way possible.

This can be done anonymously.

She will love her mum regardless of what she does,but you should be there for her,and not be too hung up with her mum and what she gets up to.and do the very best for your daughter.

You as a father should stand up for her and you have every responsibility to protect her from such a lifestyle.

Probably not. In order for a judge to award custody to someone other than the mother, the mother has to be abusive or severely neglect the child.

You said she stays out all night.... if she leaves the little girl all alone, that is definitely neglect and should be reported. It would be used against her in court.

no. unfortunatly our court system is screwed. they wont care all too much about her gambeling or staying out all night.

if you have the money: get like 5 peices of her hair that youre sure came from the scalp. send it to a lab and see if they find drug reasults. if not youre pretty screwed.

you may get half custody??????

call a divorce lawyer and check.

these clowns on yahoo answers may not be giving you correct answers!

good luck,

fight for your daughter

macy

ps: if you can MAKE YOUR MARRAGE WORK!!

I would suggest that you get a really good attorney. My ex was a drug addict and she got custody. My Greates Sin. God Bless you and your child.

God Bless

Frank Pytel

Get proof first. Or contact Child Protection and let them go after her. If they have reason to belief this girl is in danger they will remove her.