My husband and I are divorcing. His knee jerk reaction is to say that he is going to get 50/50 shared custody. In my opinion, that wouldn't work. He works 12 hour shifts and its a rotating schedule. Plus, when he had the girls last year on school nights they would rarely get there on time, if at all. He encourages them to stay up late and then in the morning he doesn't allow for the time to get them to school. He'll call me frantically asking me to leave my job to pick them up at his workplace to get them to school so they will only be an hour late. I don't want this to be a regular occurrence (as it would be with 50/50). Also, my mother watches them if I am stuck at work past the 3:00pm I normally get off. He doesn't have a situation like that at all. They will be with strangers after school until he gets off work at 10:00pm. I mean, what is he thinking? Am I really going to have to fight this? Maybe someone has a link I could send him letting him know the reality of the situation.
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If he decides that he wants to try and get it, he can get a day in court to explain why he should get 50/50 custody... so yeah, you might have to fight it.
I have 50% custody of my son... but I work Monday through Friday from 8 to 5. My mom or my girlfriend watch my son for me while I work, so he isn't with strangers... and he and I spend every evening that I have him together. Your ex is being selfish and isn't putting the kids' needs ahead of his own.
I would suggest that you try and reason with him. He won't win, based on what you've written here. How could he? He can't provide for his kids based on his job. He is hurt that he is a visitor to his girls, that's all... he wants to be a part of their lives. You might point out that the money he'll spend on a lawyer to fight a losing battle might be better spent for something for the girls.
Good luck........ hope you don't have to do the court room drama, but yeah, he's got that right..........
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Talk to your lawyer. Start a diary of his work schedule, or ask him for a copy and keep it. How old are the children? Theoretically the family court will decide custody on the basis of the best interests of the child; this sounds very disruptive and unfair for them. But you and your lawyer would need to offer more evidence than just your word against his, unless by talking about it he could agree to custody that allows him to be a father, not a jerk. He might even like that.
There is other ways to do the 50/50 besides all during the week. However do you just want him to be everyother weekend dad i bet,which in todays world wont fly very well. Us dads are more involved with are children and we love it. However we are still men and our kids need to learn from both sides. Just dont look at it from the negative stand point i challenge you to find as many goodthings as the bad which you have pointed out....
I seriously doubt that he will get 50/50 custody of your kids, his work schedule is just to sporadic. You will probably get custodial but I would speak with an attorney. If the school they attend have any paper work that shows they're late for school that might help too, or if their grades fall when they are with him. Good Luck.
The first priority for the judge is the children. They will have their best interests in mind, that's their job. Normal visitation for divorced parents is every other weekend. The courts realize that children need structure and that's what they will make sure happens. As long as you are a good parent I wouldn't worry about anything your husband is saying.
Document, document, document. When your attorney objects to the 50/50 split you will have plenty of situations where he was unable to handle the daily activity and how much of a burden it puts on you when he does so. One night a week and every other weekend is more than enough time.
You really need to talk to your attorney about this... My ex has the kids from Friday night to Sunday night, every other week... That way, I can get them to school...then during breaks, we alternate holidays...Summer, we each get one week on and one week off... That way he gets them more in the summer, but I get to handle most of the school stuff, insuring that they are there on time...
Make sure you document everything so that you can show the court the issues you are concerned about...
go before a judge and tell him this, what if he had them every other weekend or during school breaks...i agree with you it is not right that hes so irrisponsible about his children
if you have joint custody he would get them every other weekend and every Wednesday and the whole summer