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let him spend a day volunteering in a childrens hospital or with homeless people, maybe that will show him how good he has it.

I had a wife a lot like that. Regardless of whatever was going on, she always found the negative. This is a matter of choice that we all make. She took me for granted and looked to me to be her source of happiness. Life is full of twists and turns, but some of us choose to make the best of it, while others always see the down side. Wow, I just won a million dollars, but it sucks that I have to pay all the tax, right? It's BS that I finally decided was not what a good marriage was about. I don't need that stuff for the rest of my life. She's realized now how good she had it. Regardless, she'll never be happy. Maybe either just leave the room every time he starts complaining and he'll get the message, or if that doesn't work...well, you might decide to take more severe steps.

He is unhappy with himself. Why I can't answer. I was like that felt like nothing was going right. Find God, go pray lead him there too its, how can I say, takes your breathe away. I was in a horrible job, the money was good so were the benefits once I left there I saw much change. Chances are if he hates his job, so do the other employees and its just a hostile environment. So he sees everything ugly and unfullfilling. Get him to excercise too if he doesn't already, that always makes you feel good. He will continue to be this way until he decides to make a change all you can do is make suggestions and support him. Hope what I said helps even a little bit Its not fun missing out on lifes goodness when one is so unhappy. God Bless.

The no meds and not listening to reason is just simply male pride. My fiancee' can be the same way. So can I but I am bipolar and take meds for it even though it took me a year of being on them to realize that, yes, I really do need them. Your husband may also just like the ability to "out-do" others complaints. It may sound weird but another male trait is to be very competitive. so if he has a habit of always "having it worse" than others when they complain of something, though it may be annoying, it will be normal. If he truley was depressed he would get to the point where he wouldn't go to work, would withdraw, and talk of death alot or just not talk at all. You cannot help those who refuse it. Take care and god bless.

Welcome to the real world. I was in a similar situation. I am a registered nurse but I hate my specialty, it pays well but it's mental and emotionally draining. So right now I am going back to school to transfer to another area that not only pays well but I look forward to waking up to in the mornings. I totally understand how your husband feels. Why don't you suggest that he moves to another area of the company that he might enjoy?

It's not that he's being ungrateful for the good things in his life but there are times when your job gets to you, Especially if you have to go in there everyday.

He's not depressed. He's bitter. And taking life for granted.

Take him to the hospital so he can value his life and health.

Make him watch Jude Judy or similar so he can appreciate his loving wife, friends, and thank God for his blessings.

He also needs a vacation. Alone. As do you. He needs to quiet that voice in his head that has him running too fast to stop and enjoy the blue skies, the breeze on his cheek and the hiccup of love.

Well you need to make a decison in your life of if you want to live with a man that is not happy at all. Or if you love him enough to tolerate the whining and the complaining. He obviously is a very un happy person to act this way all the time, and maybe it has something to do with his home life maybe the way he was raised it is something and you either try and help him get to the bottom of it or you just deal it is your choice at this point, it obviously makes you unhappy as well.

Listen, sometimes guys just gets sick and tired of always doing the same thing everyday. You ought to let him go on vacations once a year with his buddies for a week or so and don't call him while he is away. Also, you should encourage him to go to the gym at least twice a week and let me tell ya, it will make him feel alive and excited.

Make an appointment with him and get his attention-that is most crucial. No phone, no food, no children no nothing-just you and him. Tell him. Often men can not hear their wives telling there is a problem because they can not deal with more than one thing at a time. Make an appointment-get his undivided attention -then let him have it-he will get no other way.

Well it sounds to me like he has it toooo good. Sometimes if you have been at the bottom and WORKED your way to the top...well you are just a little happier to be at the top.

Like my Dad use to say...Pull up your boot straps boy...life ain't that bad for ya....yet. I never knew what he meant by that Yet part LOL

Anyways tell him "suck it up princess" You have it alot better than most people

You dilemma is a tough one. He is negative are you positive in every thing. You be positive when he says negative things think of some positive comment to add. Are you devoted to him?