No. Mike's ex just got a PO on this ahole who killed the girls' cat. He had her at knifepoint, ripped her clothes off, raped her in front of her 3 girls (2 of em Mike's) and his own son, and he bonded out the same day. An effin protection order is a gd piece of paper.
No I don't. There are a lot of kinks that needs to be worked out. But the ones that I experienced need to be addressed here and now for the safety of the victim and the children involved.
1.The perpetrator should not be allowed to bail out of jail until he/she has gone to court. Bailing out with in the first half hour doesn't give the victim enough time to collect their senses and do what should be done to get to a safe place.
2.The perpetrator should not be allowed to get the children once it has been proved that they are violent. What ever they will do to you they will do to your kids.
3.These people generally get a slap on the wrist unless they break a bone. If the person has been arrested more than once for domestic violence, they should be convicted as a repeat offender makeing a mandatory 1 year sentence on them.
4.The children should be removed from any home where domestic violence occurs more than once. This forces the parent to at least protect the kids. As it is a fact that if a child is brought up in a violent home they to have a good chance of becoming violent.
I could go on for days an write 20 books. It still couldn't cover it all.
I live on the other side of this, I was accused, and was at work when it was supposed to have happened. 25 people told the police I was there, but because the charge had been made, off to jail I went. I lost my house for 1 1/2 years (still had to make the payments though), my kids, basicly my life until after the trial date, and i was not within 20 miles of the b#%ch when she said i hit her. I think the Domestic Violence laws need an Update, they are too easy for a person to use now with nothing but an accusation.
The laws yes, the enforcement no. To many restraining orders are completely ignored by both parties. Women decide they miss him or have to know what he is doing, men stalking them or using the ruse of needing to see their children when there are legal ways to work around visitation. These happenings lowers the law enforcements desire to strictly enforce the code, then everyone starts pointing fingers when something bad truly happens. Ask any of my four girls if they ever need to have a restraining order what do they want and you will get the same answer. We don't need one, we got Dad and our brother.
no they are not. They offer no protection, they try a band aid affect with the restraining orders and the single night in jail, that does not work. No man who views his wife, fiance or girlfriend as a piece of property will let a piece of paper stop them from obtaining or coming by her. It is sad the way they STILL sweep the issues under the rug and that women like myself are still viewed as the ones at fault, for example it is our fault, we like it, we are crybabies, we could get out and away if we just wanted to, and a million other things I have heard all before. Yet when I go call the police like I am told and try and get away what happens? they get slapped in jail for ONE NIGHT and are back... where am I to go? what am I to do with 4 children no income and no family?
To be honest, I think that they focus on men way too much. Once I went to jail because my g/f was beating on me, and I grabbed her wrists to get her to stop, leaving a mark. She punched me, head-butted me and pulled my hair, and I went to jail. I realize that men are capable of doing more harm, but that shouldn't give women a free pass...
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No. Mike's ex just got a PO on this ahole who killed the girls' cat. He had her at knifepoint, ripped her clothes off, raped her in front of her 3 girls (2 of em Mike's) and his own son, and he bonded out the same day. An effin protection order is a gd piece of paper.
No I don't. There are a lot of kinks that needs to be worked out. But the ones that I experienced need to be addressed here and now for the safety of the victim and the children involved.
1.The perpetrator should not be allowed to bail out of jail until he/she has gone to court. Bailing out with in the first half hour doesn't give the victim enough time to collect their senses and do what should be done to get to a safe place.
2.The perpetrator should not be allowed to get the children once it has been proved that they are violent. What ever they will do to you they will do to your kids.
3.These people generally get a slap on the wrist unless they break a bone. If the person has been arrested more than once for domestic violence, they should be convicted as a repeat offender makeing a mandatory 1 year sentence on them.
4.The children should be removed from any home where domestic violence occurs more than once. This forces the parent to at least protect the kids. As it is a fact that if a child is brought up in a violent home they to have a good chance of becoming violent.
I could go on for days an write 20 books. It still couldn't cover it all.
I live on the other side of this, I was accused, and was at work when it was supposed to have happened. 25 people told the police I was there, but because the charge had been made, off to jail I went. I lost my house for 1 1/2 years (still had to make the payments though), my kids, basicly my life until after the trial date, and i was not within 20 miles of the b#%ch when she said i hit her. I think the Domestic Violence laws need an Update, they are too easy for a person to use now with nothing but an accusation.
The laws yes, the enforcement no. To many restraining orders are completely ignored by both parties. Women decide they miss him or have to know what he is doing, men stalking them or using the ruse of needing to see their children when there are legal ways to work around visitation. These happenings lowers the law enforcements desire to strictly enforce the code, then everyone starts pointing fingers when something bad truly happens. Ask any of my four girls if they ever need to have a restraining order what do they want and you will get the same answer. We don't need one, we got Dad and our brother.
Lady S and asuwish makes some good points.
no they are not. They offer no protection, they try a band aid affect with the restraining orders and the single night in jail, that does not work. No man who views his wife, fiance or girlfriend as a piece of property will let a piece of paper stop them from obtaining or coming by her. It is sad the way they STILL sweep the issues under the rug and that women like myself are still viewed as the ones at fault, for example it is our fault, we like it, we are crybabies, we could get out and away if we just wanted to, and a million other things I have heard all before. Yet when I go call the police like I am told and try and get away what happens? they get slapped in jail for ONE NIGHT and are back... where am I to go? what am I to do with 4 children no income and no family?
the laws are all soft sorry for the rant
NO they are not! My mother is dead because the laws here were not strict enough to protect her!
To be honest, I think that they focus on men way too much. Once I went to jail because my g/f was beating on me, and I grabbed her wrists to get her to stop, leaving a mark. She punched me, head-butted me and pulled my hair, and I went to jail. I realize that men are capable of doing more harm, but that shouldn't give women a free pass...
NOT EVEN CLOSE
If a known repeat abuser is able to do it a third, fourth, fifth time, the laws are clearly lacking.
No I don't, then if something tragic happens they want to "say" make them stricter but it never happens.:)
NO!!! Most are ridiculous and cater to the f'n offender!!