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Yes, I listen. I don't agree with every bit of advice she gives, but a lot of the time, I think she's right on the money. I've never read her books, but I wish my wife would read her first on. You know, The proper care and feeding of husbands. She's awfully right wing, and a lot of time I don't think SHE sees the whole picture, but it's usually amusing when someone calls her after they've just started listening to her.

I read "Care & Feeding" and found it very interesting; it was very applicable to a number of recurring situations in my marriage. I think she has some good insights for women, but you need to take some of her stuff with a grain of salt as she can go overboard. It's not really about "manipulating" your husband to get him to do what you want, it's about understanding what makes him tick to improve your marriage. The Golden Rule trumps all I think in marriages, but if you don't know or understand how your husband wants to be treated / thinks, you are only going to be marginally successful no matter how good your intentions. And for all of the cynical man-haters out there, if you think it's all about sex on demand for the guy, you just don't get it - good luck finding and keeping a good marriage.

I debated actually giving this book to my wife and suggesting that she read it, but chose not to based on the advice of many Y!A M&D contributors... It still has helped by relationship, however, by making me re-evaluate what I'm doing and how tuned into my wife's wants & needs I am. And how well am I holding up my end of this deal (I think I was fair, but have recently gotten better).

I have listened to her but don't agree with her. She is just too out there when it comes to marriage and children! I think that she is secretly a man that pretends to be a woman to the public! And not a man of this day and age but a caveman! if u need help u should try someone else!

I listen to the show to hear other people's problems and wonder how I would answer if they had asked me. Part of me thinks "man I'm glad that's not my problem" and I do enjoy the occasional phone troll that slips past her screener.

sometimes she makes sense when she knows what she is talking about. (usually when there are generations of psych studies that back up what she is discussing)

When she has no idea what she's talking about (and I've heard plenty of times when she doesn't. it's usually on things that are outside of her life experience and her area of expertise) she comes off as arrogant and oftentimes mean and small minded and she is often wrong in those cases. It's those times where she will usually not listen to the caller and has misunderstood the question and then she will accuse them of changing their story and will then hang up on them. (I've also heard times when the caller HAS changed the story and she has hung up on them--in that case the hang up was earned)

She runs into problems when her personal moral code/religious beliefs are in conflict with what are the realities of modern life. She also runs into problems when she advises someone to not do what she herself has done and is still doing. I understand when you've done something and then regret it and advise someone to not do it, but you are hypocritical when you advise someone to not do something while you continue to do the thing you've told them not to do. for example: she will often advise women to not date older men while she is married to a man 17 years older than her. She will advise women to take their husband's name "so you and the children will have the same name", yet she doesn't use her husband's name. She will advise women to not have children when they are over 40 (she told one woman who discovered that she was pregnant at 54 after years of being told she was barren to give the child up for adoption because she and her husband were too old to have a baby.) while she herself had her son when she was over 40.

I read her first two books "the 10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives" and "the 10 stupid things men do to mess up their lives" and found both to be very accurate to situations I've encounterd in my life and in the lives of my friends and family (these books were written based on phone calls and letters she had recieved of problems people have had over the years she's been doing the show). Many of the solutions were common sense type things, fortunately I haven't pulled any of the stunts in the books and I've dumped men who were behaving like the men she described in her books and the books helped me erase any doubt that I did the right thing in those instances.

I've also read "the 10 commandments"--the book she wrote with her rabbi explaining how the 10 commandents can be relevant to modern life. I found the explanation of the 5th commandment useful and discussed it further with my clergy person (bad childhood and was feeling guilty for cutting out a toxic and dangerous parent and feeling pressure from other family members to allow that person back in my life--this helped me see that I was doing the right thing and to allow this person back into my life to cause further havoc and chaos would actually be going against that commandment.)

I did read "the proper care and feeding of husbands" and found that to be a bit old school "this is how you manipulate men to get what you want". Yes there was good advice about creating a loving atmosphere and that as a loving spouse you do things because you love that person (again all common sense stuff) but the over all feel of the book seemed more like "the Rules" (anyone remember *that* disaster of a book?) for marriage.

My brother read "Bad Childhood, Good Life" and he recommended it. It's never in at the library (and there are 7 libraries in my area and each one has 2 copies) so I figure that one must be good. I may get around to reading that one.

if you like radio advice shows: Dr Joy Browne has something similar without all the moralizing, proselytizing, and right wing rhetoric. and Dr Browne is actually a psychologist.

I used to listen to her while waiting to pick up my children from grammar school.

I see her as a self-righteous zealot and put her in the TV/radio preaching category. This woman has not lived the kind of life that positions her to give advice to others on how they should live theirs. Yet she does - and some people just eat it up.

I don't know if you'd like any of these but this is some of what I listen to; neutral milk hotel, mount eerie, slow club, the decemberists, said the whale, arctic monkeys, bombay bicycle club, beirut, vampire weekend, the kooks, noah and the whale, la dispute, bright eyes, animal collective, the antlers, the mountain goats, the fratellis, bon iver, adele, gregory & the hawk, the last shadow puppets, grizzly bear, why?, midlake, belle and sebastian, the strokes, the national, the magnetic fields, band of horses, the shins. x

She's a shock jock who says outlandish things to make money. Just like Limbaugh and Savage.

Never...she is a nutball and in no way an expert on anything but making a buck.

Think of her ? Sad.

Help in any way ? No.

do the dew ... MOUNTAIN DEW !!!