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I'm gonna be having sex with someone else then!

Yes, it can last if they are still friends. But, one of them will have to find some outlet, such as creative arts, etc. Couples can not live together without some feelings coming up, so they will sublimate those feelings into other avenues. Isn't the best arrangement, but it is how some people live.

As a marriage counselor, I was shocked at how many couples came in who were not intimate. Sadly, the longer they put it off, for whatever reason, such as resentment, anger, bored, etc., the longer it takes to start over. Some can do it, others just give up and live as friends, and companions.

There is no such thing as "sexless marriage". Couples have sex as means of showing affection and desire toward each other, especially in marriage. Once the sex stops, it start becoming a "partnership". Healthy marriages and couples have sex, period! May not be every day as it was while dating but, some do maintain healthy sex life as before marriage and some "taper-off" to lesser frequencies. Most stop sex due to boredom, routine-ness and disinterest of their partner. Newness do wear off. Most important part of marriages are to keep the passion going AFTER marriage. Boring old missionary style goes old quick. Spice things up to keep things more interesting for BOTH of you.

I don't think that a sexless marriage can last because someone will stray. Although sex is not what holds a marriage together it can be a big part of why it won't last. Maybe you can consider doing something fun in bed to get one another's attention.

Well if both of you dont want sexual contact then I guess it can work. I think, however, that either or both of you will end up meeting someone who wil bring out those sexual feelings. I personally dont think its healthy, but hey, different strokes for different folks. Why dont you want to be intimate with each other? I thought that was a natural urge in everyone.

Maybe as your relationship moves on, one or both of you will be looking for what is lacking in your marriage.

I love Lumpy's response, and to Michelle...my parents are 82 and they are STILL having SEX!

I think that many things affect each person in marriage. Stress, hard work, kids, etc. And lots of times sex gets pushed to the back burner.

It is NOT as important as caring for the kids, going to work, cleaning the house, ect.

I know that myself, I have not always been intimate. But instead I cuddled and massaged my husband and he has done the same for me. Our life together is what we have made of it and it is not always about sex..but about being committed to each other through touch and words and "just being there for each other"

For some maybe, but for the huge majority NO. Marriage should have intimate contact, otherwise it's just being roommates.

Some do last. It's rare, but it does happen. But you must understand that while they are not having intimate contact with each other, most likely at least one of them is getting it elsewhere. Depends on their age in some cases.

I agree with Torrilynn, if it is mutually no sex, then yes. Otherwise the one desiring sex "might" stray. I am in a sexless relationship at present because my partner has had benign cancer removed from that area that keeps returning. I have not strayed. It is up to the love you have in the relationship.

Marriage is about sharing

everything. It's about two

people in love and making a

home and raising a family and

making a life together.

Sexual contact is part of marriage. If there is no

intimacy, there is no love, there is no marriage.

Unless they're 90 years old... I could never be with someone who couldn't fulfill me in that department. I know love and friendship are also very important, but you cannot isolate just one aspect. Marriage is a whole that slowly falls apart if one of its main components is missing.