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They say if you separate and leave the house it will almost always end in divorce. I think it depends on what you want. My husband and I separated and have grown much closer than we ever did before. He realized alot of things he was doing and how it upset me. I learned alot of things he was doing to upset me was because I wasn't giving him any attention. (Not sexually although that was there to) So the separation for us was good and has helped us come a long way.

My (brief) time separated did teach me several things (none of which had to with something extra on the side)

1-Yes my wife could learn not to be so negative

2-I could rekindle the feelings

3-The kids need both of us. This really, really went poorly for them. They're much better now

4-My wife is incapable of fundamental change (and why should she, she is who she is)

5-All the old things that sucked, still suck now and we are back in the same rut

6-We really dont have much in common

7-She controls how affectionate (hugs to sex) the relationship is. I control how receptive I am.

8-We both need full time jobs if we were going to go our separate ways.

9-I think she still loves me on some level and needs me around. This needs to change

10-We're not ready to go our separate ways just yet

So no ultimately it doesnt mean divorce

Well it depends on what the two people are doing during the separation. I never understood how people can separate and say they are working on the marriage. It defeats the whole purpose of trying to figure out how to live happily TOGETHER. All separating does is either show you how much you miss the person, or show you just how much you don't miss the person. But then once you come back together under one roof, you still have to figure out how to survive in marriage TOGETHER. Sometimes people separate so they can think. They need time to themselves to figure either their ownself out or figure out what they really want without the "static" of being in the same house with the other person. Or if a person is in an abusive marriage, the separation is done to find safety.

I dont know what the statistics are but the reality is BOTH people have to work on the marriage and figure out how you will live together in peace. I don't see how that can be done in separate houses.

Tell your daughter that you and "Daddy" are getting a divorce because "Daddy" doesn't show you respect and mothers and fathers need to respect each other in order for marriages to work. He loves HER and you love HER and always will. It's not her fault, it's an adult problem. Period. She is only 5. She will get over it eventually. Does she see her actual father regularly? She should, if possible. She will exhibit behavior which is uncharacteristic for her for awhile, unless she really didn't bond with this man. But, you can always take her to therapy for a few sessions. You are doing the right thing. She is getting a bad example of how women should be treated by staying with this man.

Yes ma'am they can get back together! We separated for 3 months and now it's better than ever. Main goal in everybody's life is to "not be alone". There were reasons y'all got married, y'all just forgot. Divorce is not the answer, but remember, don't sell yourself short if when you guys are separated and he/she sleeps with someone else. (it's still adultery). During separation, I'd suggest you find yourself and fix yourself, he/she didn't cause the separation by themselves. It takes two.

My husband I separated for 6 months and got back together. So no. It doesn't mean divorce

When a man initiates a separation it's a divorce w/o documentation.

When a woman initiates a separation it's a form of manipulation.

It usually ends in divorce, but it doesn't have to. Divorce doesn't even have to mean divorce! My grandparents got divorced and remarried 4 years later. They stayed together happily for the rest of their lives :)

You can't work things out if you both live in different households. It is rare that two people get back together once they have moved out. If you love each other then you should do everything in your power to stay together and work together to resolve your issues. Hopefully now than before it is to late.

I know several people who separated and then realized they still were madly in love and got back together. sometimes too many things get in the way of the relationship.