So there is this chick, we went out for about month last year. After we broke up we were kinda friends but it wasn't the same. While we went out she was kinda shy and didn't want to even get close, besides a few times. Recently she had sex with some guy and she seems like a new person, more like a better version of herself. The guy was just some random person she new and she said she did it because she just wanted to get 'it over with'. I never really stopped liking her and when I'm near her all I can think of it holding her and being close. I feel like she likes me too but I'm not sure if she would want to go out again. My friend also likes her, he has for a while, but I feel complete when I'm with her. She's the only person that I want to be with everyday. Today we talked on the phone for 3 hours after hanging out with 2 of our friends. Should I tell her how I feel and see if she feels the same, even if it might hurt my best friend?
This post was more to clear my head and put down in writing what my situation was, but please comment and tell me what you think.
Update:I was thinking the same thing as Zack Munich. I feel like I would give up the world for this girl. But she kind of likes him too. We joke about her and my friend getting married, even his mom does, but it's not just a joke they are kind of serious, maybe not of actually getting married but sometime going out. I still feel like she would choose me over him, but I don't want to hurt him, even tho he'll probably get over it. Half of me is saying **** it all just go for it and the other half is saying let things play out. But I'm afraid I'm not going to like what happens if I let things go. This so ******* annoying. Why can't this **** be simple. Thank you for commenting too I know slot of people come to yahoo for relationship help and it kinda gets annoying after seeing all the questions about it.
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you should do whatever you think is best, if you feel for her you should probably tell her, especially if she shows signs of liking you to. I wouldn't worry to much about your friend, if he likes her as much as you say he does then he should have jumped on it first.
Most likely if the two of you were meant to be together it would have happened already. If she wanted you to be her boyfriend she would have made you it. She probably sees you as a good buddy and nothing more. It probably wouldn't hurt much to ask her if she's interested in being more than friends with you, just to get it out of the way. It might be a little awkward but that will pass. If you're going to do it, better sooner than later to get it out of the way; otherwise, the longer you put it off, the more pressure you will be under and you're going to be completely wound up all the time. If her answer is no, then you will have to accept it if you want her to be in your life. Best thing to do is probably to find another girl for yourself, and try to see this one as a friend.
Yes you should tell her, and you'd friend. You never know how she feels of he feels. He may be fine with it, if he was really your friend and you both like each other he'll be fine with you two. But don't fall her just because she seems a little easier now, not saying your doing that im just saying cause a lot of people tend to do that haha. Not just guys, girls too. Maybe she's gotten over her shyness. Go for what you want and be honest with her and your friend.
Well, if he was really your besr friend he would not like ur ex. She would be off limits in respect for you. I think you should go ahead and ask her if she is feeling you bc u do have history with her not ur so-called best friend.
I think you should see if she feels the same. Try and get your friend to understand that you still have feelings for her?