So im in grade 11 and this girl i want to ask out is in grade 10. I worked with her, go to school, and go to youth with her. Theres some problems though. 1, she went out with one of my best friends last year/ 2, she is a little out of my league. 3, I don't even think she really likes me. 4, Im what you call bad at being social, because i have mild car of aspergers. and finally 5, my last two girlfriends were, too put in nicely, not '10s'. I was gong with a take you get mentality,so i didn't end up with try much, but I'm ditching that and going after people instead. The problem is that she might get offended/ have it hurt her self esteem if she thinks that she's on the same 'social level' as the other two... which she is NOT. Im not really use what to do.... Also, her birthday is tomorrow and i can't figure out what to get her
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giver her u as a birthday present
I find it quite respectable that you're trying to take the initiative.. However I must also add this... I think the "out of my league" thing is quite ridiculous... I've been told that I"m "that girl"by people who told me the person I was interested in thought I was not (only saying this to give you a little reference as to why I say what I am)... Granted, I do have high standards, but they are more than reasonable and logical (been told that by my mentors). If' you've only recently changed your view, give her time to see this instead of just tell her so... I still don't understand what's the big deal about the best friend dating thing, but I've not had to experience that, so yeah... And you won't know if she likes you or not until you ask, asking her friends may or may not be a good idea depending on her and them... if you go out with a girl strictly on looks, that's just shallow, and not worth either of your times... as for the birthday, don't get anything huge nor super special cause it can cause her to back off and close you off (gifts like that make it awkward on everyone involved)...
Good luck
Wow, kid you have issues, but let me help you out as much as I can. Follow along because this while easy, may be a little hard to grasp.
1. Take that girl that you like "SO MUCH", off of the pedestal that you've placed her on. If you like her, then that's all that needs to be acknowledged. Stop thinking about who you've dated in the past.
2. Repeat after me: While (say girl's name) is pretty, she is not, NOT perfect. Many men make this mistake of evaluating the one they like to be perfect. No one is perfect, and that's exactly why you have a chance with her.
3. Never-ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, disrespect yourself like that again. It does matter how she takes you asking her out, the fact that you care, shows that you are more than enough for whoever she is, so forget Social levels and move forward.
4. The best way is the straight forward way. Get her attention and ask her if she'd like to go out on a date. ( Be precise about where you want to take her. Also when asking her out make sure to use the word "Date", this way you remove all illusions about what going on between the two of you)
5. While it is okay for you to buy her a gift, DO NOT SPEND MORE THAN $25-$30. what you want, first and foremost is her respect. refuse to be placed "Friend zone" DO NOT LET USE THE WORD "FRIEND" OR "FRIENDS" THESE ARE BAD WORDS. Be brave and ready for what ever comes I have faith in you. Go be a man,
Why don't you talk to her more, so she slowly gets to know you better. Then try to drop some hints that you like her. And trust me, just cuz you've dated other girls before the girl you like won't think that she's at the same level as them.
tell her that you'll take her to dinner one night for her birthday when she's not busy.