So this is a long story, but I recently decided to go out with my bestfriend. Well, I have been friends with this girl for over a year now and we were really good friends. Well i fell in love with this girl in our grade last year, and I couldn't get over her. Well recently my bestfriend and I made-out and it was my first kiss. So that night, I asked her out, and we started dating. But recently,I have been feeling it was a bad decision, and I still don't know my feelings for that other girl i used to like. I dont know what to do. I'm not sure what I have done, my bestfriend really likes me and since we are dating now, I don't wanna screw her over, but I am kinda thinking this was a mistake. Whenever Im with her, most of the time, I feel that I really like her, but whenever Im not with her, I feel it was a bad decision, and I dont know what to do. We talked about this, and we decided maybe it was just a thing that happens to everyone in the early stages of a relationship. Please help me, I don't know what to do??? I don't wanna lose my bestfriend and or lose a girl that could be perfect for me?
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Awwww. First of all, why'd you mess your friendship up? I am sorry. That is probably not what you want to hear, but I must be blunt about this. If you break up with her, if she breaks up with you, which as a teenager, (I am assuming you two are young) is most likely inevitable, then your friendship may not ever be the same. It seems that it is very hard for boys and girls to be best friends without falling and love and trust me, I wish it weren't like that. If you want to be her friend it may be possible, early in the relationship to go back to that. I don't know though it depends on her feelings. I'd say talk to her. Tell her that you never want to lose your relationship with her whether it be friendship or lover. Tell her your feelings and see what she thinks and feels. I hope I helped you :)
Maybe you committed the worst mistake that a guy could do,start date your best friend,yes it's normal what you're feeling but try to ask her sometime for you to think in what you really wanna do,tell her that is nothing with her,is with you,tell her you're not right about your feelings and want a time to think about it.