when my 3 year old boy goes to his grandad he seems to have better time with him than he does with me and his dad . i play games with him do drawing painting playing in the pool etc ad included him in everything i do but he is not intrested in doing n e thing but when he is at his grandads he i laughing all the time saying how much he loves him and when its time for him to come back he has massive paddy's and crying fitts for at least a day he see's his grandad 3/4 times a week as we live quite close and he comes round for tea every now and then i try to make it fun for us but he always wants to go to bed or he says wait for grandad . now i know his grandad gives him everything he wants like biscuits and that but whilst im trying to play with my son and teach him things i dont want him to be spoilt, im expecting my second child but what i am worried about is what if he gets older and wants to live with his grandad (sorry if ive babled on or u dont understand ) some advice would be nic
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Stop Stop Stop! You are worrying over very little. This is a granddad's job! Your boy is acting exactly like he should, and he should love and want his granddad! Ask granddad nicely, to ease up on the biscuits and treats [especially near meal times] as you want them to be just that 'treats' - not something he gets all day every day at granddad's. Keep a close eye on things, and relax a little! When your next baby comes along, the pressure will be on granddad to keep up the attention for the two of them and I'm tipping that granddad will slow down, without you having to say or do anything. Enjoy the pleasure your son gets from his granddad and his granddad gets from your son.
Whoa. Calm down. Be grateful that your son gets to spend time with Grandad. Some kids aren't that lucky. My son has more fun at his Grandparents too, because they aren't responsible for them 24/7 they are free to be more fun than parents are. But, don't worry, you're doing a great job. It's your place to be a good parent not his best friend.. The best friends will change as he gets older, but you will Always be his mom.
be firm and consistant and let him know that behavior will not be tolerated AT UR HOUSE .cuz u cant control grandads house and cant keep em apart.my mom and granmom live 2gether and they spoiled my now 6 y/o to 12 power, im was two things honest and firm in the fact of telling those folks do that way there but i dont ply that they're a treat 4 him cuz they're old aint wont be here forever.my son is very mature and understands it and for him the balance works but im very loving w/o the fear to insiston respect and instilling the idea smart and cute but spoiled brats dont fly here
That's their job, your job is to parent.
You sound like a great parents. Don't worry he will not want to live with his grandparent. I always say the best part of being a grandparent which I am is that we are allowed to spoil our grandchildren.
Parenting are the parents job, unless of course the grandparents are the legal guardians and are raising their grandchild.
Be grateful that his granddad wants him around. It must be great to have so much love. You are the parents, why should he want to live with his granddad.
Once he hits teenager years, kids change. You never know what the future holds. If anything happaned to you, your son would go and live with his grandfather.
you are worrying WAY too much. All children love to be at their grandparents more than at home simply for the reason you mentioned, they get spoiled. My son is the same way, but that dont mean he doesnt love me or the time we spend together, he just loves getting even more spoiled at his grandparents and Im sure its just the same with your son!