A new girl came to my school and she was really nice. We became friends instantly. She invited me to a sleepover along with another girl from our school. They had been best fiends since they were babies. This girl refused to be my friend last year claiming she hated me, so I stayed away from her. She was always negative and mean, so no one liked her. We got along great at the sleepover. I began to really like her. I was glad that I was making new friends. The next day at school, everyone noticed the new girl talking to her. They asked why, because she is so mean and uncool. I said they had been best friends forever. Everyone complained because they really liked the new girl, but not if she was friends with her. They decided not to be friends with the new girl just because she was friends with her. I stood up for her, even though it could risk losing some of my friends. I said she had changed from last year, and that she was a lot of fun last weekend. I walked with her to lunch and she avoided me. I asked what was wrong and she told me that we had nothing in common at school. I asked what she meant and told me that we shouldn't hang out at school, because we weren't in the same league, and that she would only hang out with me out of school. I asked if she thought she was to cool for me, and she I was really upset because I thought we were friends and I stood up for her just to be dissed.
I can't ignore this, but I don't want to cause drama.
Should I tell the new girl? Confront her? Help?!?!
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You can say whatever you want, but in the short run, it won't dramatically change anything.
If you want a positive, strong change, then become a model student.
I believe the drama has already started, but it's up to the people involved to make it a good thing.
Moreover, it takes lots of effort and time to build trust and reputation.
That mean girl would need to do a lot of character molding to show others that she is not as mean as before.
So instead of telling and rebuking them, show them how a good person/student should act and be.
Don't try to be the hero, but a great friend.
Continue hanging out with each other, whether your in school or at home, show others how much you care about them.
People have to earn respect and that will take some time, so be patient and persistent :)
i would try to still hang out with this new girl and maybe ask to her to confront this other girl about what she said and how you stood up for her. I think if she still acts the same way, and the new girl stays friends with her then stopping talking to both of them. Friends are not supposed to only be there when its convenient for them. Its 24/7 and if shes embarrassed to be seen with you then dont need her.
a quote i like.
"You couldn't just pick and choose at will when someone depended on you, or loved you. It wasnt like a light switch, easy to turn on or off. If you were in, you were in. Out, you were out."
— Sarah Dessen (Along for the Ride)
IF the girl won't tal kto you at school then she not a true friend...you need to talk to your new friend ( new girl) and explain waht is going and that you still want to be her friend and stuff but you can't be friends with someone who is ashame to be friends with you at school...its sad and hard i know but thats not good to be in a situation like hat but i give you props on sticking up for her that awesome!
Well it seems like shes unreliable. People who are so inconsistent like that are most likely not very honest. If she's constantly allowing others to sway her views than your better off forgetting about it. Just be as nice as you can when your around her, but go I wouldnt out for her friendship or worry about confrontation.