We have been together for 2 yrs and 10 months almost 3 yrs and for the last month and a half we have been arguing more often about the stuff norml couples argue about i know we both arent perfect and make mistakes all the time thats cuz we are human I love her very very much and she loves me too .She thinks i dont pay attention to her or that i dont care about her when in fact i really do care .I Never have cheated on her ,We havent had sex yet she's 17 n im 18 an now she is thinking of breaking up with me but i dont want to let her go and brek up. I know im not the total reason why she wants to break up it's also her families impact on her.Her dad cheated on her mom wth another lady and i know that got her upset but im always been there for her and her problems with her family i just want to know if thats the impact or reason she wants to leave or does it increase t fact that she is tired of everyhtin I mean everything. Am i a good boyfriend? or does she want soeone else?
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You are not only a good boyfriend, you sound like a great boyfriend....if you could be together for that long, and care about her as you do, and not have had sex, then my hat is off to you. You are learning valuable things about how to be in a relationship with another person.
I once heard true love defined as "need satisfaction" and to me that means that the person who loves the most is the one who most consistantly puts the other person's needs and desires above his own.
If your gf says she needs more attention and more caring from you, you need to find out from her exactly what this would look like. Tell her you can't read her mind, but that you do care about her and even love her so she needs to spell it out for you.
You are wise to consider her dad's adultery having an impact on her. Sure it does. And it might be that the only way she feels she can get some "control" in her life may be by controlling the one relationship she has some power in. The one with you. She can't do anything about her parents.
Not fair to you, but that's my $.02.
I'm sure you don't want to hear this answer, but I would like to give you my thoughts. I was in the same situation as you and I thought that I was going to marry that girl. But in all reality you may feel like you are old enough to understand love, you are not. I am almost 25 now and I look back at the relationship you are in and feel kind of silly about it. It was a good experience from a relationship standpoint, but you are too young to understand everything about a relationship. In 7 years you will be a completely different person than you are now. She will too. You sound a lot like me and you probably are a great boyfriend, but when you are that young its just all part of life that gets you ready for other relationships. If you guys can stick it out and be together than great. I hope so, but if you are having these problems at your age I hope things get better fast. Life is a lot longer than you think. Take care.
Well, after three years of dating, you guys should know eachother very well. If you've been around eachother too much, that might be the reason why you two are so irritable. But, the best thing to do to stop her from thinking about breaking up is to just go back to the basics. Be sweet, buy her flowers........tell her how u feel........take her somewhere and have a lotta fun with her. Sometimes relationships can become boring........you just have to give it a fresh start once in a while to get it back on track. After three years you should know if you guys love eachother. Listen to what she has to say.......and give her a little bit of space if she needs it. It's not the end of the world.
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Maybe she knows how her parents are and doesn't care about her ugly unfaithful dad anymore but is more worried about the way you act or don't act, maybe if you didn't tell her how were ever you go that you tell her that there is a cute girl looking at you, or that you never mention where you are but the fact that your calling and texing me like crazy when I'm not home, or how you get jealous when I'm busy doing work!!!!, yea good for you you havent taken my virginity yet but didn't you forget to mention because i wont let you, and how constantly you beg. GIRLS ANY MAN CAN MAKE HIM SELF SEEM GREAT BUT YOU KNOW WHAT YEA ITS ALMOST BEEN 3 YEARS BUT I BARELY KNOW MUCH ABOUT HIM HE RATHER HIM KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT ME, YEA HE KNOWS MY FAMILY ISSUES BUT I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT HIS "WE ARE SO CLOSE" THAT HE KNOWS ABOUT MY PROBLEMS BUT I DNT KNOW HIS. So remember gals dont believe half of what you hear and part of what you see.
You are probably a great boyfriend, but she isn't ready for a real, grown up relationship. She has alot of hang ups and isn't willing to take responsibility for her share of the problems.
You will survive without her. Get your own head straight and look for a real woman. A sane, caring woman who can return your feelings.
She just isn't ready for a lasting relationship, seems she is more into the drama of it.
You need to break it all off and move on.
its normal that she feels like this because family does have a big impact on a person. you have to let her know that you will not do that. you have to let her know that no matter what you will be there for her and how much you do love her . take the extra step to make her relaize that you do pay attention to her. i wish you luck & eveything will turn out for the best!
I would tell her that no matter what you love her and will always be there for her, no matter what she's going through you want to help her through it cos there's nothing worse that seeing her upset.
Then I would go on to tell her just how much she means to you, nothing rehearsed, just from the heart. Hope you can work through it!
You shold take her out on a romantic dinner and have her sit on your lap and ask her comly if there is anyhting bothering her.It is ok to show pda.public display of affection.
just try ur best showing her how much u love her and how much u care about her but if she break up with u then llet her go b/c maybe she dont really love u that much