I'm a sophomore in highschool (guy) and I've been told that this girl I met the other day wants to get to know me some more. I don't mind as I am open to meeting a ny new girls, but her friends are VERY annoying and are not the typical people that I enjoy being around. M not saying that this girl is annoying and I do like to judge people on her friends, but I feel as though it wil be very stressful being around her friends all the time as I don't really enjoy benign around them. I know this could come out as mean and stuff, but I'm stuck on what to do. Should I ignore who her friends are or should I just be friends with her and not get to close wit her? I also feel as though I have been sucked into the world of highschool and that if I'm not around the crowd people like, then I will slowly move away from the friends I have now. :/
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In high school a girls friends are her world. If you accept her but reject her friends you will be sabotaged by her friends and this will turn into a bad scene. Just be aware that the likelihood of a high school relationship working out in the first place is highly unlikely. These are the years that you meet people and figure out what you like and don't like for future relationships. Not liking her friends is increasing the chances of a bad break up. Girls this age usually go back to their friends after a few weeks anyway so if you like your sanity I'd skip this one and realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Part of growing up is to learn how NOT to lose yourself - to be able to be your own man regardless of those around you. If you like her and she seems to want to meet you, then find out what kind of person she is and if she is worth the trouble. High school is not forever. It will be over sooner than you expect and it will be nothing more than a memory. You can make the memories good or bad - it's your choice, but remember there is no do-overs so choose wisely.
You are going to find that the world is filled with annoying people. When you get out of college and go to work, you are going to find people of all kinds in the workplace and you will either have to learn to work with them or find another job which may not even be an option. So, start learning how to deal with it.
Try to get to know her, and if things dont work out, then just explain. Im sure she would understand if she is a nice girl. Maybe she would hang out with you without her friends? Good luck!