try dr phils relationship rescue book

also, statistically satisfaction in marriage with the partner drops significantly when the first child is born (it is of course counteracted by the rewards of being a parent) and then, if you stick it out..... it goes back up again (if you have a good attitude) from when the youngest starts school.

Its just a case of only having so many resources, young children take a lot of emotional resources until they start school, then there is more to divert into the marriage.

With the intimacy, you have a 3yo (ie, not a baby that isn't aware if parents are shagging wildly in the next room), so if your wife states 'she would like things back the way they were' well, it may not happen, but there are degrees, you could make a romance date, two nights in a row, every two weeks, have the house tidy, loose ends done, and set a time, ie, 1 hour romance date friday and sat from 9pm every two weeks. You can only offer it. I don't know about other women, but with kiddies etc i need 'advance' planning for bedroom activiities. Single peoples sex is a thing of the past for you two for a few years yet.

You need to be nice and not a pain if you want to keep someone's interest. Find the things you are good at and show them to her. Don't focus on problems. Focus on what you are good at and what you too do well together. This builds confidence and that makes you better able to handle problems. People can easily knock your confidence by complaining, saying you can't do something just because they can't and being negative about something. Try to be positive. It doesn't mean you'll succeed every time, but your changes of success will increase.a lot.

Also, find the things you have in common, you both like and do these things together. Plan so you have the time for them.

You two need to have a day devoted strictly to eachother. No outside distractions. Hire a sitter all day to take care of your daughter, and do something very romantic for your wife. Maybe recreate your first date? Take her around all day, have a nice dinner, find another activity that she enjoys doing and just worry about relaxing. End the night off in the bedroom; maybe starting the intimacy with a massage including warming, scented massage oil. Those are just basic ideas, you can do whatever you want, just dedicate a day to her and yourself. It sounds like she is letting outside influences work on the relationship: financial concerns, stress from the job, stress from having kids, etc. Hope this helped brother.

You have become betaized and become the functional equavlant of being her servant. Thus she has lost attraction to you. Even the premise of your question is not aimed in the right direction. You could do everything remodel the house, do all of the dishes and perform a magic show and it still won't change everything.

You shouldn't be aiming to impress your wife. Impressing her may create comfort but it isn't going to do squat for creating feelings of attraction in her. That's what she's missing is those feelings of attraction. All of the tasks and impressing in the world isn't going to create the 'gina tingles she used to feel.

Go read the marriedmansexlife blog and fourm. Go and post they can explain everything thats going on to you and how to recapture all of those old feelings. There's just too much to type that they can cover over there with ease.