How do I know when porn becomes inappropriate?
My boyfriend and I have had a very solid relationship for the last year but today a came across a burned CD which had pornography on it. While I am not offended by pornography itself some of the videos had titles like "father daughter incest," and referenced underage girls and some appeared to be women who did not know they were being video-taped. I dont know what to do, does this make him a pedophile or unsafe to be around children? Should I turn the CD into police?
Update:It is difficult to judge whether these are girls under 18 or if they are just young looking women definitely borderline which is why I dont know how to deal with the situation. Obviously it is something he has an interest in though if he has bothered to save these. PLEASE HELP.
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I would be careful. Most of the porn sites 1) stage their movies into fairly racy themes like you described, and 2) name them appropriately. The producers of porn often use very young looking women as well.
Porn is becoming passe, so the purveyors of it have to keep making it more 'edgy' and racy. If you really think it's child porn, then yes, go to the police. In fact, you are an accomplice if you are certain it is child porn and you do not go to the police (and you live in the US)
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I have met some people that are what I call digital packrats. They burn everything to DVD. Anyhow, if the movies at all appear to be from a production studio, like they have intro's, or web sites overlayed, etc, they are probably kosher.
But why not talk to him about it? It clearly bothers you a lot.
And no, I don't think someone liking porn that portray women as younger than they are to be pedophiles that are not safe to be around kids.
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None of this sounds appropriate, especially if the pornography involves children or anyone being taped without their knowledge. Your boyfriend isn't going to admit to being a sexual deviant. You obviously feel something is so wrong that you should consider going to the police. I don't mind porn either. I'll even watch it with my boyfriend, but not anything like what you are describing., I would follow your instincts..
It became inappropriate a long time ago. Now, you are dealing with the ugly side of pornography.
Some porn users start with softer stuff and migrate towards harder and harder content in the same way a drug user needs harder drugs to get the same high.
You need to have a tough talk with your boyfriend and then get porn out of your life. It has obviously now created problems for you that will only get worse if you don't take action now.
talk to him about it. i personaly think all pornography is offensive.