I usually wouldnt do this...but im curious to what people think i should do. I once was in a true love relationship. Me and this girl clicked from the begging. I saw her and i knew i was going to take her. When i got the chance to talk to her we clicked almost immediately. I asked her out, a couple times she said no but i kept asking and she eventually said yes. As time went by we fell more and more in love till we got to the point where we couldnt stand being apart. Everybody thought we were the perfect couple we both started to think that maybe we were meant to be. We did have our ups and downs though and we've been through alot together. Unfortunately something happened and we had to break up. It was hard for us both. She moved further away from me and although we were technically broken up we still talked like we were still together. While she was away i found out she had done some things that really hurt me and i never really forgave her but she was still talking to me like she was still deeply in love with me even tho what she did hurt me alot. So i started being cruel to her but she continued talking to me saying things like "i need you" and stuff. Although she never really said she was sorry for what she had done. I still talked to her tho because i still loved her but it was less often then before. But then i came to terms and realized she was sorry and she really did love me so i gave her a break and showed her i really do love her more then she thinks. Although, Now she has a new bf and says she's falling for him. What i dont understand is how can she be falling for him when just about a month or less ago, she said she wanted a future with me. I thought true love never faded. Anyway I asked her why, she said i really hurt her during those time i was being cruel. Though i was only cruel because i was hurt but i ended up hurtin her more. My question is (thanks for being patient by the way) how can i show her i didn't mean any of those cruel things, i only said them because i was hurt? How can i reverse the damage and possibly restore the love and connection we had? Or have i destroyed any chance of love with her again? She's the only girl i will ever truely love.
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I'm sorry but you did not have "true love". It's not your fault for thinking that you did though - it's one of those things where people think they know what love is when they haven't had true love, but once you find it, you KNOW what it is. True love is not having your girlfriend "do some things that really hurt you" and it means you DON'T break up and it means you DON'T have "ups and downs". True love is EASY. You have fun together 99% of the time and the only time you argue is when you have a communication issue and once you resolve it your relationship is actually even better than before. So, you didn't have true love. You really liked your girlfriend and cared about her, but as you dated, you discovered things that you DIDN'T like about her (and she discovered things she didn't like about you). Dating someone is like an interview process. You spend time getting to know each other and if there are "deal breakers" in your relationship, then you need to go your separate ways because, if you don't, you'll be settling something for less than true love. You were cruel to your ex because she was cruel in what she did to you while you were dating. That's not a basis for a healthy relationship. True love means you're NOT cruel to the person you're with because you love them so much. If she has a new boyfriend then she obviously does not want to be with you. You need to realize that your relationship wasn't that great and maybe you only want to get back with her because you're going through a dry spell right now. It is best for you to realize that you haven't even scratched the surface of true love yet and you need to start dating new partners in search of your true love. Many relationships don't work out and that's ok. Moving on means that we have the potential to finally find the right person for us. Good luck.
Love is a tricky thing. It can seem to slip away just as easily as it comes. But, the thing is, true love always comes back to you. You don't need to restore anything if the love you have with this girl is true and real. She's probably in a stage of denial; she doesn't want to love you because you hurt her, which was wrong of you, but after her relationship with the guy she thinks she's falling for is all over, she'll realize that you're the only person that she'll ever truly love, if the love you used to have with her is real.
Wow. My words of wisdom are: Never seek revenge; Always give your ears to those trying to talk to you. Also, I'm sorry because there isn't a magic spell; you don't have a time machine; tomorrow is another day.
Don't focus 100% of your energy into the problem, but 100% on a solution.
You can't restore what never truly existed. Whoever told you "true love never fades" must have had their head buried in those foolish fairy tales. She has a bf now and you are now the past. Time to move on with your life.
this might be an obvious answer but the best way would just to be to talk to her face to face, or on the phone (NOT TEXTING) if face to face isnt possible right now. tell her how you feel and let her make a decision. but if you really do love her it might not be fair to her to put her in that situation to have to choose between you and this new guy she is falling for
"Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for awhile." (Princess Bride)
If it is really true love, it can overcome anything (like the quote above)
Don't give up, but don't be too clingy.
idk man but just try your best and hope and pray good luck!