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Hi, first, being uncomfortable around guys does not make you a lesbian. If you feel sexual attraction towards guys then you are not a lesbian, if you feel it towards guys and girls then you might be bisexual, meaning you are attracted to both sexes. There is nothing wrong with you either way. As for guys not liking you back, there can be so many reasons for your perceiving it like that. Where are you meeting these guys you say don't like you? maybe because you're feeling uncomfortable around guys you are putting out a vibe to make yourself unapproachable. first you need to figure out why you want a boyfriend, then why you think you cannot be in a relationship. these things need to be cleared up before you dive into a relationship. try keeping a journal and writing how you feel everyday you may answer all of your own questions! good luck! email me if you need to.

you just need help with your confidence and you haven't found the right person to get into a relationship with male or female. As far as lesbian, often, and not always so don't jump on me for that, if you see a lesbian you may also see where there was something in their past that caused them to think that and my basis for saying that is several lesbians that I have been close with.

Raise your self esteem and do things that make you feel good about yourself and you will attract others to you. You say plus size but are you overweight? Get on a good program to lose weight and that alone may help your self esteem. find things to do where you feel comfortable and that may help - a bowling league if you like that, a local gym perhaps or anything else that you would like to do and can be good at. You are only 19 so you have time to find someone special, and you will once your self esteem is raised, but where you are now is better than those 19 year old girls who have gotten into relationships and are already pregnant. Good Luck to you!!

You just might not be ready for the dating scene yet. If you don't feel comfortable around men, is there a reason why? Did you have a father growing up? If not, that can make it more difficult for a woman to be comfortable around men. If you never had a father figure to look up to, it's hard to know what to expect, and that may make you uncomfortable.

You also may have a bit of low self esteem, because you are plus sized, and we all know the whole world focuses on the skinny women, sadly. It's not fair, because it's what is on the inside that counts.

I would not go as far as saying you are a lesbian. It sounds like you just have not explored your sexuality yet. You may have been more focused on school, and other things, and just haven't given yourself the opportunity yet.

I just think you feel awkward with yourself, in turn causing you to be awkward with other people. Don't try so hard to get a boyfriend, it'll happen when it happens. From what it sounds like you just need to take some time to get to know yourself better. Trust me, you get to know who you are inside your confidence will grow. You'll be more confident within your own self and people will notice. People are attracted to confidence, not *********, there is a difference. Just take some time off trying to find a boyfriend or over thinking things to tell yourself self you're lesbian (←what?!?)! I think you will find what you are looking for eventually if you are patient. Stop trying to hard to want or get a boyfriend, just let it be. Good luck and take care.

Alot of people male and female are having the same problems you are, that doesnt make any of you gay or lesbian. Just means you haven't found the right person yet and maybe you're shy. Only if you have a real attraction to the same sex, find yourself only wanting to be in a relationship with them, etc are you gay or lesbian.

You seem straight, just that you havent found the right guy yet. Maybe your trying to hook up with the wrong men, explore your options. Try dating men in a different age group, area, race, or social background.

Maybe it's just a lack of self-esteem. Get out there and have fun.

Think about it, are you comfortable about the idea of being with a women.

Maybe the reason why you feel uncomfortable around men is because you like them, and you're hoping they'll like you because you don't want to be rejected. And if that's the case, you do like men, you just get nervous.

u r young and insecure. U will grow out of the first and have to work through the second. When i was your age, i ws the same way, but i am fine now. Also, 19 yr old guys can be delussional, they all think they can get and want the anjelinas of the world. Then one day, some wake up and realize beauty comes in a variety of forms. Be patient, it will be ok. But if u want to give a girl a whirl, go for it.

You know if you are a homosexual if you have sexual feeling for the same sex or both sexes. Just because you do not feel comfortable around men does not mean you a homosexual. I am plus size myself and yes low self esteem was around alot, but i learned to embrace plus size. Most likly your self esteem is low rightn ow and you just need something to boost it up then I'm sure you will feel more comfortable around men.

If you don't know----YOU AREN'T. You say that you like boys and not girls right. Just because they don't like you back doesn't mean your are Les.

Examine yourself and your life. Find out why or what the boys don't like, personality, plus size, teeth, bad breath and on and on. There are a lot of possible reasons. Work on those and the rest of your life will fall into place.pp

There's nothing wrong with you. You're 19, that's all. Most men don't know what they want until they're in their late 20's or even 30's. Right now most of them think with the head between their legs, not the one on their shoulders.

True love will find you once you are happy with yourself AND when you aren't looking for it. The harder you look for it, the hard it is to find.

Keep your head up! God will provide when the time is right.