I have two little kids on my hand and just separated from my husband for good? Need advise or help on coping the loneliness pain alone since have no family or friends around.
Update:Well the reason of separation is basically often verbal and occasional physical abuse. He is so loving when he's not angry. But he gets almost like a psycho man he gets angry. So, when I think of loving sweet side I feel so sad to let him go but when I think of his rages I realize it's right to let him go. We have been separated so many times before everytime we have fights but he came back apologizing and I accepted him as I see how happy my children got happy to have him back. But now I feel like this is the end and as much as I realize my children love him so much I also realize that they don't need a dad whose abusive and uses foull language around them everytime he gets mad. I guess I should say his main problem are just an anger problem, selfisness and maybe prescription drug addiction, etc... Yet I'm just very afraid to start everything myself. Can anyone suggest good counseling/ advise that can help me to forget him and become strong and happy again without him?
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I am sorry you are going through this. Divorce is never easy.
Check around for a divorce support group, through the phone book, Internet, your church. and build up a circle of friends to help you through this time. Your kids will need you too. There are also many good counselors that can help you.
God Bless.
Try to arrange a little time so you can rectify the "no friends" situation. Hire a baby-sitter once a week, maybe on a Saturday.
Nobody needs to be so isolated and lonely in this world. You will drive yourself into deep depression and ruin your kids if you neglect yourself - so don't neglect yourself!
And when you feel the emotions are at ease, do consider dating again.
You are just as human, just as in need of the warmth and trust of companionship and love as all human beings are.
Good luck!
Im sorry to hear your challenge. My husband just informed me he wants a divorce and i've 3 young children. It has been so difficult for me . My advice to you on account that theres no longer so much we are able to do about our spouses. Focal point on yourself proper no longer. Be aware of that your robust and your gonna be good enough. I began maintaining myself busy speaking to associates and do extra routine to keep my mind off of matters very rough when your depressed. I additionally started seeing a therapist which really helps to get matters out and recognize despite the fact that its very rough a lot of females pull via this. I wish you the nice of luck .
then you need to make some friends. just because you are a mother doesn't mean that you have to subject your life to staying home all the time. get out...do some activies with your children (depending on how old they are). meet your neighbors and invte them over for coffee. find a way to live your life. the best revenge is living well.
Keep yourself busy by planning things with you and the kids. Make sure they can see their dad on the weekends/or every other weekend so you can get a break.
hang in there.
time will heal the emptiness you feel.
get involved with your kids and their friends parents.
keep yourself busy.
there was a reason you left him that was worth the loneliness. you can do this. just take it one day at a time.
tough situation, but your kids can be your foundation to building yourself and the family without the ugliness of what caused the separation....life goes on...try and make the best of it.
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