I have seen myself change a lot lately. In my teens i used to be very calm and composed ...but now I have started to grow into one really sick tempered person! Yesterday my husband and myself went to our dealer pick up our new car, we were reviewing our bills and we saw some hidden charges from the dealer and he was trying to rip us off...well he is an arshole everybody knew that, but i just lost my temper and started shouting at him, My husband was totally embarrased of my behavior :-( .... this is just one example, and it has happenned several times :-( ... i tend to get too tensed and agitated at every small thing!!!
Why does this happen!! why do people grow to become so disturbed?? Is it anything to do with stress? or is it just the way the new "grown up" me is?? I hate myself when i lose it...i appear pathetic :-( .... why does it happen??
Update:Garlin
Thats totally true.... we lose our dignity within our own group of friends and family, if we lose our temper so frequently! and in public .... I agree its a choice and one should try to choose not to lose thier temper..
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You talk as if you click out of control. The truth is stress can cause us to become weak, but we as human being choose to click. Yes we choose for that second. either to make us feel better, too get a point across, or to keep from being punked, and etc , but yes its our choice. Once we click the adrenaline sets in and its like being overly intoxicated. Its like the hulk, its like a high, YOU LOVE THAT FEELING OF BEING OUT OF CONTROL. Day after day of doing this, it becomes a habit and your oblivious to the fact. Whenever you feel stressed practice choosing not too click. mabye it might help to cry.
Yeah, I know how hard it is.
U r having a depression, sweetie :(
The best thing to get out of this situation to go for a holiday or camping for a wile with a person u would feel urself calm and quiet, with a person u love most. But it's very, very normal if u want to be just alone.
Camping helps a lot as nature forces u to be calm and relaxed...
When u back from the brake u'll see the big difference in ur behaviour.
Good luck to u :)
hi there, sincerely am facing quite the same thing like you. me too was someone calm and funny. but with time i've notived that iv changed. pesonally i think that its the result of a change in life. now u must be having a job, which asks a lot from you, resulting in stress though u may deny it. with that excess of stress, it happens that it just "explodes" without taking into consideration where u are, or with whom youre talking to. what you need is to take some time, think over all the things that stress you, and try to find a way to overcome them.
fro an example, am a teacher, with about 25 kids of 5 yrs to work with everyday, whne i see that am gonna "explode", oi just leave my class, ahve a walk, then return 2 work. and it works, not at all times , but still.
k, hope ur probs get solved. ;o)
maybe it has something to do with how you used to be really calm and composed, maybe you kept so much anger inside for so long it's just all coming out now. Or maybe you have something else that your angry about but instead of dealing with it you're expressing it like this at inappropriate times, kinda like pouring too much liquid in a cup, it's just overflow...
whatever the case may be if it isn't something you like about yourself then maybe seeking some help from a professional would help. Or go the less expensive way and hit the local book store for a book about dealing with anger...
My son described ANGER out of control like this " You are a Hammer, and everything is a Nail". I'm 51, and up until a few months ago, I had NEVER completely let my anger loose - I did, and hurt someone pretty bad. STRESS has a lot to do with it, but I am taking Anger Management Classes - really helps!!!
You could have stress, and not be aware of how much stress you have.
It could also be your hormones jackin' you around.
It's good you're aware of your temper. A lot of people with temper problems just blame everybody else.
I'd see a doctor, get a check up. Maybe get some anger management training, or anger management self help books.
Or maybe a good vacation would help.
Anger management my friend had it he would burst into a tirade that would start reletavely small but would gain momentum in the minutes that followed, Like an uncontrollable crechendo. He would wind himself up with every last sentence fuelling the next one . I would just have to wait for the fire to burn out and the next morning he would appologise. You can treat it with psychiatry.
My bloke is the same. When we first got together 5 years ago he was the calmest person but after having kids and money problems on and off hes turned into one angry person. He flies off the handle for no reason and everything seems to do his head in. I think stress plays a big part and you circumstances too. Try going on a relaxing break by yourself to chill out.
it sounds like this is out of character for you. i would take a look at your present life situation and try to see if there is smth else that u are concerned about and not dealing wiht and its indirectly coming out as anger and rage. half of solution is recognizing that u have a problem, so i just say breathe, conut to ten. i wud be pissed off to if someone is trying to cheat me, esp those car dealers.
don't worry work on it someday it ll go away as long as u give it ur best,
sometimes it not normal but have faith since u r ready 4 a change trust in God and d change ll come