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It sounds like you have self confident issues. Maybe with the way you look and how people perceive you. I can understand that it must be very awkward and hard for you, but when talking to someone and avoiding their eye contact, they will see this as you being rude and disinterested in what they have to say.

The only thing you can do is to try and overcome this, in furture when talking to someone really try hard and look them in the eye, of course don't hold an un-natural stare with them but focus on their face and occasionally shift your gaze away then look back at them. The more you do it the more you'll feel comfortable with it and eventually you should be able to hold an easy, natural conversation with someone :]

Hope this helped.

This is such a good question, and I know there are a million people just like this. I feel the exact same way. I am not very confident in myself, and I think that may be the reason. Like someone else here said, if you stare at someones eyes and never look away it could make the other person feel uncomfortable, so try not to overdo it. What I do, is when I'm talking to someone, I either force myself to keep eye contact for a certain amount of time (in seconds) and than always try to beat the previous amount of time I was able to hold eye contact. This really pushes me to improve. If it gets too much, looking at someones eyes, concentrate on the area in between both eyes. It looks as if you are looking at their eyes, but you aren't. It seems liek you may have some insecurity issues, so just try to build confidence in yourself. Good Luck!

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Don't stress about it so much. There are lots of little tricks you can learn if you don't like looking at people in the eye. Next time you are somewhere where you are relaxed, try looking someone in the eye for just a few seconds. If you still can't look in to their eyes, try looking at the bridge of the nose. Most people can' tell the difference.

Next time you are at the shops, try looking the shop attendant in the eye. It is perfect, as you don't really have to worry about what they think of you, and your average contact with a shop attendant is just a few minutes.

Something to remember, try not to go too far the other way either. I personally feel very uncomfortable when someone keeps constant eye contact, because it feels like staring. Try starting off with making eye contact with your friends for a few seconds, then look away, then make eye contact again. Most people don't stare constantly any way.

Hope this helps

There has been times when I could not look directly at someone in the eye too but after reading a lot about body language and thinking about it,I came to the conclusion that if we at least choose one or two times to look them directly in the eye then it helps to open us up a little and they don't think of us as shifty and untrustworthy.I used to have the problem more than I do now. Now I can look someone in the eye and it really doesn't bother me.But I started out by choosing a particular thought or subject when I tried to start doing this.A lot of times when we DO look eye to eye,we are subconsciously looking for signs of approval and acceptance so start out by saying something that really does not pertain to you and then as you finish saying it look them in the eye to see their reaction.Practice on doing this a time or two a day and build up to more.After a while it is not hard at all because somehow,you really begin to relize that people are not having negative thoughts or anything when there is eye contact.Hope this helps you.

lack of eye gaze is a sign of a lack of self-confidence..you have to get over that if you want to succeed in your professional and personal life because eye gaze is what shows other people that you are a sane, intelligent person. try only looking into their left pupil for 2-3 second periods during conversation..if you are genuinely paying attention to what they are saying instead of thinking EYE CONTACT EYE CONTACT, you will naturally use the right amount of eye contact.

Maybe you don't feel confident about yourself. when I see someone talking to people and don't look people's eyes , I always think that person is not the honest person. So next time u might try to look at people's eyes for 3 seconds, just keep practicing, u might get used to it.

I don't know I really just looked into some women's eyes and I was like where the **** was her soul . I really hate looking in people's eyes but it was taught to be good manners at a young age I'm not sure but I feel like it's a dominance thing people want to be dominant over others so they look you directly in the eyes I think it can change tho because maybe she feels guilty for missing two classes I have a theory if you look into persons eyes you die with that person in your soul

You must realise that this type of behaviour will make you look `shifty and sneaky`. It is one of the worse kinds of body-language there is - it seems to imply to the person you are talking to, that you do not really like them. It can also make them feel that their conversation is not worth listening to - is boring in fact. It insults people.

You don`t mean that of course, but that is what it looks like.

When you are talking to someone, you don`t have to stare into their eyes all of the time! An occasional very honest straight look deep into their eyes is all that is needed to make them feel you are really listening to them. Its a `happy medium` you must aim for. No silly staring at them, but also no `distant` look in your eyes as tho you are thinking of something else, and not really listening to them. And don`t dart your eyes around , with that shifty look either.

You are talking to THEM, not to other people.

It`s all about body-language - specifically `eye-language`.

I think it has to do with your confidence and I agree with Do Unto Others, you feel that people may see too deeply into you and see things you don't want them to.

I feel that way to an extent also.

Maybe you could practice just looking at your own reflection in the mirror?

Like another answer said look at their nose or something. or in the middle of their eyebrows. Or a zit they have somewhere. It will make you feel more comfortable.