I am being home schooled and feel like I do nothing all day. I have looked up things to do but I don't like any of them and I don't have a talent for any of them. I really only have a talent for reading. I can kind of do gymnastics. I am not that pretty or that smart. I am average. When I hang out with my friends I feel like they are really immature. I still like them but it just feels different. Especially since I don't go to the same school as them anymore and they keep saying "Why don't you come back" But I don't want to. I like the home schooling. Also, they make fun of me, but not meanly if you know what I mean, and I pretend it doesn't matter but it kind of hurts me and makes me think they don't really know me. Can you offer me any advice of what to do or how I can feel better? Thank you
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go for a run
Ignore the rude comments. Don't hurt yourself. I know what you mean though, and a lot of people feel depressed at times, like me, so you're not alone. I would suggest getting new friends but that can be hard since you're home-schooled. Try just trudging it out. Wait for the sunshine to burst through the clouds. Maybe it's time you started focusing on yourself. You know it's okay to compliment yourself, right? You won't seem self-centered. If you don't feel you're pretty then why not get a make-over? A cute, possibly dramatic, haircut could really boost your self-esteem. I cut a foot off my hair and everybody loved it, including me. Try joining a sport or club, one that you've always wanted to try, whether you're good at it or not. Oh, maybe apply for a job! Redecorate your room. There's a world of options out there. Either way, never let somebody feel like you're not good enough to get what you want. You want your friends to be nice to you? Demand it. You deserve respect. Lastly, sometimes you can fake yourself out. If you're moping in the sadness then it'll last longer. Try pretending everything is awesome and maybe it will be. Sorry if this is long but hope it helps. Don't worry, be happy!
You can't let peers pressure you. I know it sounds easy to say. You can stop it. Just say: "You know what guys? I don't give a crap if you don't like my homeschooling." They should stop, if you make the serious face. If they don't make them jealous. Tell them that you learn about cool things, and that you're parents teach you awesome things.
Don't call yourself average either. I'm no tom cruise, but i look pretty damn good in an old graduation suit. Wear something beautiful once in a while. Also, if you have a talent for reading, you may have a talent for writing and poetry. Check it out. And if you do find yourself with either of those talents join me: Penname Thomnus at webook.com
Know that this is common. That everyone around your age has these sorts of questions and feelings. No one judges themselves fairly and everyone tends to be too hard on themself.
Alright. That said, what to do to make it better? Get involved! Find somewhere where you can volunteer. An old folk's home is a good place that's always looking for someone. How about at your local day care or contacting your city's leaders for suggestions? Any time you start to feel down about your own circumstances, it's a great thing to volunteer to start feeling better.
Excersing is proven to boost your mood!