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Well first of all I love your name ,,, butterflies are my most favorite thing to watch and they are tender an so fragile, As you seem right now. Honey your 17 years old dont worry about boyfriends believe me you'll have them! I was shy in school and I didnt bloom til after i was 21 ! But mean time you have things that you need to take care of. Your schooling is so important, and being a doctor is so great! You can turn things around. You know all you have to do is put your nose in those books and your grades will recover!! And im sure your beautiful, I still dont think im pretty but everyone tells me im beautiful,, i think im fat they say im perfect,, i say i'll never find a man,, they say to stop looking he will find me... they are right u know! ButterflyAngel i have 2 children,,, and 2 grandchildren and yes im still young,, young at heart but in my 40's but it doesnt mean anything,, You have to be happy with yourself before anyone can be happy with you. I promise you that you will find your way and you'll do good in life,, honey u have your whole life ahead of you! You can do great things for people.. I need you! I may have cancer again, and you could be the doctor that operates on me one day an saves my life! Ohh how wonderful that will be! Your so young honey ,,, people will get you down you dont need to kick yourself tooo. So bring that chin up butterfly and show everyone how beautiful you can fly and soar in this world. Be that angel and show yourself that you cant DO ANYTHING if you want to bad enough!!! Cuz honey you can have the world... Dont worry about guys right now.. when you get happy with yourself then you will have all kinds of guys at your door!!! If your not happy with yourself then change what you dont like.. do whatever you want to do to make yourself happy, but please follow your dreams and dont ever let anyone tell u not even yourself that you cant do something! From one butterfly to another,,, I would love to see you bloom!!! And most of all I would love to see you happy! so hang in there ok,,!! Your not alone... x0x0x0x0x0x Study ok!!! go to college and become my doctor cuz i need you an so does so many other people! take care and love yourself always!

That isn't depression it's the normal insecure dramatic feelings of being a teenager.

It will get better soon.

There's nothing stopping you from getting a boyfriend even if you aren't pretty. Lots of ugly people have boyfriends and girlfriends. Getting one is also not the most important thing in life which you'll figure out soon.

Even if your grades are bad you can take more classes and improve. There is definitely hope. Some people drop out of school and end up on drugs for years etc, then turn it all around when they're quite old and go back to school, get a good education and have a fulfilling life.

Even for them there was hope. A lot of things can be overcome and your situation is actually pretty easy. You're feeling pressure but things aren't as bad they seem.

Try getting tutors or whatever. Taking more courses, working hard to get your career as a doctor and the boyfriend thing will all happen in good time. 17 is young. Try things where you meet new people like volunteering or going out to clubs with your friends etc.

Give yourself time honey you will blossom. Sometimes it just takes a little longer for a person to blossom. If you don't think that your grades are good enough for med school then maybe try for something else that you would like to be. Low self esteem is a hard thing to break away from. Just remember you are good enough and you are pretty enough. Sometimes remember just becaus you are not pretty on the outside or so you think you are a beautiful person on the inside. I went to school with a girl that wore coke bottle glasses and was not pretty at all. But she was a beautiful person on the inside and people knew that she turned out to be the homecoming queen. Don't be so hard on yourself you still have the rest of your life to look forward. I am 46 I wish that i could go back to high school again. I was young had a hot boyfriend all through high school had a car, had a job, was voted miss congenialty because of my personality three years in a row not because i was beautiful. Hold on and quit worrying about guys because you will find lots of them out there when you aren't looking for one, one will come along. Give yourself a break honey. You are good enough.

Hello Butterflyangel. I feel you on this because this happens to me too. I'm 18 years old and I only have had 1 girlfriend. I get depressed sometimes, but after all this time of being depressed I have concluded that depression is just mentally. I personally don't think that there are ugly people. Sure you might have seen guys go out with cute girls, but to be quite honest that's all they want. I know that you have heard people say that what matters the most is what you're like in the inside. Think of it this way. Say you find a good looking guy and he probably wants to have sex with you instantly. Then days pass by and next thing you know is that he was only good looking, but he didn't really want anything personal. Pursuit your dreams of going into college because that is what really matters. Keep studying. Sooner or later you'll find your soulmate.

Much love, Josue

One thing you must remember, right now is only one part of your life. It's not your whole life. High school is a very hard time for a teenager. If you could learn to see the positive things in yourself and not try to judge yourself so much you would see sometimes things aren't as we suppose. I told my children that if they can't feel good about themselves, then no one else will either. If you are unsure of YOU then others will be unsure of you too. One thing you must do, if the depression continues, go to an adult that you can trust and ask them to refer you to a doctor who you can confide in. Also, keep in mind, at 17 your hormones play a large role in how you "feel" about everything. Our emotions aren't always the most reliable source of feedback. We get short-sighted easily when we think with our heart/our feelings/and not our brain. You are not alone There are many teens who feel the same as you do. There is help, and you must seek it out soon. The sooner you do the sooner you will begin enjoying life. Best wishes.

i felt the same way as you but in a different way. i have been with the same guy for 5 years..im only 19..well i got pregnant when i was 16 and i gained alot of weight. 3 years later i am still at that same weight..i dropped out of school and never really tried my hardest at anything..Listen..it doesnt matter what you look like..or how fat or smart you are..you WILL find the right person! you are still young..and believe me at your age you DONT need a boyfriend!..you need to think about the important things right now. finish school and TRY your HARDEST! just think of all the nice things you could have and do if you were to become a doctor!..its hard work im sure...but if you try and put your mind to it, you can do whatever you want!..you sound like a smart child!.. just be all that you can be..what helps me the most is to think of yourself having kids or adopting kids..giving them everything they want and need with having any worries..because your a doctor and you make alot of money and deserve it because you tried so hard to accomplish it!..i will be 20 next month and i am going to nursing school next year..i always think about all the nice things in life that i can have..a nice car, house, beautiful children! stop looking for a boyfriend..when the time is right he will come! trust me!! just make sure you give it all you got..finish school..go to college to become a doctor!...if you have to study everyday after school until you go to bed..do it!! it will be worth it in the long run! good luck to you, i wish you the best!!! if you would like to let me know how things are going here is my email addy.. [email protected]

I am 24, and when I was your age I felt the same way... You are trying to figure out your identity right now... This is your last year in high school, and last year to be a "kid" and under your parent(s) wings.. This is a life changing year for you, and you would be surprised, probably a ton of kids at your school are going through this, but sharing anything with anyone else about it... Yah I agree I think you need some cool girly friends to hang out with, and some positive influences or role models in your life... Maybe a like a big sister little sister type program...? *( where someone can help you out right now who is older )*... Maybe a counselor or someone else can help you.........

good luck!

You never know, but sometimes you just got to get out there and see. If you like someone talk to them, don't graduate and be left with a bunch of what if's. But first I would focus on the grades. That should be more important in this point of your life. You got plenty of time ahead of you to worry about guys. No guy would want a girl who fails in life. Try hard in school now, and focus on dating in your spare time. Just put school first. That's what will matter later in life.

Beauty is something inner. if you think you're hot, then you're hot. Some people haven't get a partner until the age of 20, because they were too immature when they were younger, so maybe you don't know how to make friends and relationate with people. don't worry, if you start going out more often you'll see that your friends (i mean, your real ones) will accept you however you are... and that will make you a self-assured person. common girl, enjoy your life, i bet you don't have real problems, you're just too shy or something... good luck!

okay. don't worry about guys so much, i did the same thing. i am now 20 and living with a horriable guy who treats me like his dog. Don't talk under estimate what you can achieve. if being a doctor is what you want, then go for it... you will get there, just don't give up. Your grades may not be "high enough" now, but once you get into college you might change. I have a lot of friends that doubted themselves going into college but they are almost finished and i am re starting everything i worked for (because i gave it up for a guy). I worried a lot about being with a guy, i thought being with someone would change everything... it did change everything but not in a good way. I was 19 before i got with a guy, and it happened because i wanted someone to hokd me and i just asked a guy and he said okay... i didnt get to know him, be friends with or anything. i just gave it all up for a stranger, and now i hate my life. please dont do this.

Just keep going for what you want... to become a doctor.

a guy can wait, your future can't. you'll meet a guy one day, and please please please let it be a guy who will respect you and love you for you and someone who will help you achieve your goals. So, just keep aiming for the moon, because if you miss at least you'll still be landing among the stars. Good luck and take care. SMILE BIG and dream big.