I dont know what to do anymore..im 14 (male) and my life hasnt been going well. Yes i already cut. I understand its stupid but it helps me relieve stress. Ive recently lost weight which i felt good about. Until everyone around me says its bad. My crush ******* toys with me constantly and i always fall for it. Recently shes run straight back to her cheating ex boyfriend again because im guessing he decided he wants to use her again. Which i cant do anything about because she would easily side with him. Ive never had a girlfriend or first kiss (i know im only 14 but its pretty common for people to have that by this age) and no girls are interested in me. That doesnt really matter because im not interested in any girl except my crush. I have this constant feeling of being alone. Always. I think about what girl is there for me and theres nothing. Its starting to affect me in a huge way lately. I have a low self esteem, and i cry every night. I understand i have a while to meet a girl but its eating at me every day. I was suicidal before, but my crush helped me through it. Now shes not there at all. I also know a lot of this is hormones. I still cant shake the feeling. I know, people have it a lot worse in some places, but just because im not the poorest person, doesnt mean i cant feel pain. I dont know what to do anymore. Ive waited and waited and things have only gotten worse. I get these terrible chest pains and i dont know..it seems like my only out..
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All this love stuff at only 14... just stay away from it (who has an CHEATING EX at 14?! She sounds like bad news)! I'm 15, have never been in a relationship, and I'm still alive and happy. I've had crushes on guys in my class, too, and they never became more than that but whatever (kind of thankful for it in a way). You'll lose interest in this girl soon enough, trust me. She clearly doesn't feel the same about you but eventually you'll meet someone more mature whom you love and they will love you, too (not that girls don't like you right now, I'm sure there are some with a crush on you but of course we can't read minds). Anyways, you should be tending to yourself first rather than wanting to jump into a relationship! If you ever did date her and she broke up with you it'd probably be worse than it is now.
Do something instead as cutting! When I feel stressed out, I like to sort out my thoughts and write what's going on (kinda like what you're doing now by asking this). Hurting yourself because you're depressed makes no sense; it's like throwing yourself in the ocean because you're wet: it can't solve anything and any relief you get from will only be temporary.
This girl was never there (lost cause, seriously- you don't want to be with someone that treats you like that. I think that you should stop knowing her if she's consuming your life so much!) but that doesn't mean you're alone. You're family, classmates, and many others would be devastated if you were gone ever if it doesn't always seem that way (people don't think of things like that).
Tell someone other than the online community. Soon. A friend or Adult like a teacher or someone. how you feel. Find a friend you can talk to that will listen. if they wont Then find a new friend. any friend that wont help you is probably no good for you. Be totally honest with them. tell them how you feel
It's probably nothing personal with this girl. It's that guy. She likes him. She sounds pretty dumb. to choose him over you. Get away from her as long as she's around that guy. Some girls are just Quiet too. Don't want you to know that They're there just waiting for you.
if that's heart burn. Try Tums. That'll help those Chest pains. Personally i think they taste pretty good :) sit upright when you get them. Drink less caffeine... Blah caffeine!
If that pain stays Go look for your doctor and ask them about it.
think before you act! THINGS WILL GET BETTER. find GOOD friends (don't have to be the cool ones). You really don't need to kiss a girl. That's wicked overrated. Society is messed up. Think positively. Be optimistic. Get excited about something a band, a youtube video, a song!! Gangnam style Man! watch Tobuscus he's funny :)
Hey your 14 you should be having fun! Like you said you live in this country and your not poor. Hell you have a lot of time. If I have a lot of time then you do. I'm 22 and I went on my first date ever just recently. Listen, what she decides to do is her choice. It sucks cause you care about her, but you can only do so much. And besides, how many relationships work out when your a teenager. Not many. I didn't have crushes that much either at your age and then once you turn 18, (well at least in my case) you became attracted to 90 percent of the girls out there. I know it is a hard time, just don't kill yourself. A lot of girls will come into your life.
Tell your crush see if she can help but all I can say is hang in there... Because there will be that girl one day that you will love eachother but if u die now that choice wont be there so just wait and something will come through and in the meantime find a alternative maybe shoot bb guns or run do weights play a instrument idk do something... Hope this helps