i never really cared if he watched porn. at one point i did. but then i realize, its better than cheating/going to a strip club. its normal. it don't matter. i came to terms with it and it really didnt matter at all.
but ... recently i noticed he actually signed up for a porn site ...
and it wasnt just any random site. it was a local site.
now the country i live in... is really small.. so this got me really worried. why become a member? why that site of all sites?
and i hinted at it. i was off. i kept saying he was keeping something from me. but he never confessed.
he just once said, "yes i love porn" but never elaborated, when i pressed on why he said that, he just said... "i was just saying something random"
and then.. today i checked back his inbox and i found that registration email in his trash folder...[i dont think he knows i have access to his email]
so tell me... is that considered wrong? shouldnt i b worried? cause its like... he could know these girls. and thats what makes it different... its not just random girls that he cant meet anymore.
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Just confront him. Say that you're worried that he's trying to cheat on you. Immediately he'll ask how you found out about this. You should tell him that you've been checking his email. Right after you say that, he'll try to flip the argument, so now it's about you going through his email and him not knowing about it. Don't let him do that. It is private, but if you're in a relationship, you shouldn't have to keep secrets and **** in stuff like your email. Tell him that it might have been wrong for you to go through his email, but he shouldn't be mad because he shouldn't have any secrets to keep from her, and if he does, that's being a really bad boyfriend. It's great that you're so accepting of his guyish behavior, he's lucky to have you, but you can't let him get away with actually attempting to cheat using a website. So confront him, don't let him flip the argument, tell him the whole thing about how he shouldn't have to keep secrets from you in the relationship, and if he is, that's being a bad boyfriend. Also tell him that you're pretty lenient about how he's a guy and he's driven crazy by attractive women, but cheating and getting into serious things like this is completely ****** up.
You shouldn't worry though, those local fuckbuddy things are total bullshit 99.99999% of the time. Only if he's being really mysterious, going places he usually doesn't go to for an hour or so... then you might have a problem. Just make sure you let him know that you give him a pretty loose leash, but keeping secrets is just wrong. You can't let him have too much power, but you can't be overpowering to him. Nobody likes that.
hope that helps :3
What is the difference between local porn and porn that is far away though? It'll be hard for us to answer you regarding that since we don't know where you're from. Are you worried your government or other people in your country will easily detect you and know you're a member of the site? If you are worried about such (although that seems irrational), just watch porn without being a member.
Porn has become a pretty accepted thing in society. So has masturbating. It's nothing more than taking a crap except you shouldn't talk about it. Unless of course you're comfortable with doing so. The thing I wouldn't do is surfing through someone elses e-mail account without their permission. That's not nice and is wrong. I doubt he knows these girls anyway. Even if your country were as small as a country like Barbados, a lot of the pornstars who'd be working for a Barbadian porn company (which there probably aren't many of) may be from other countries and just there for work. You got nothing to worry about. Why not watch it with him? Maybe it'll give ya'll some good ideas ;)