Ok I moved from Oregon to Florida 5 years ago, after which my parents insisted that I shouldn't contact either of my two close friends (I'm not going to use their names to protect their privacy but I will use 1 and 2 just so you can understand it more). But recently my family has been through some difficulties and I decided to get a Facebook afterwhich I typed in the names of my friends and requested them. Friend 2 reacted right away and now we are in contact, but Friend 1 reacted like a couple of weeks later and we talked a little bit, but a few weeks after that she told me we weren't friends anymore and deleted me off of her Facebook and Myspace. Friend 2 now doesn't pick up nor does she text back, so I don't know whether or not Friend 1 spoke to Friend 2 (Friend 1 and I got in a fight in 6th grade which I don't even know what it was about). So my questions are:
1) Was I stupid to reconnect to them?
2) Should I try to contact Friend 1 and say I'm sorry?
3) If you answered yes to question #2, how do I do that?
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Unfortunately, friendships can come and go. My friendships with people I was friends with in school aren't the same anymore. Our lives have taken on new meanings and have taken different turns. I think secretly we all have that desire to reconnect, but realisticly it isn't possible to get back to the way it was.
Perhaps your friends are hurt. if you are desiring a reconnection with them you may want to let them know how the move wasn';t your fault, and that so much time has passed that you have forgotten what that fight was about, but that you want to make amends no matter what it was.
If nothing happens, at least you can say that you tried opening the door.
No way in any way are you dumb for contacting them. You felt as if you needed your friends and you tried to reach out to them. Whatever is the issues with Friend 1 is her problem. If you tired to talk to her and figure it out and she does not want to say anything to you that is her problem not yours. Try to reach out to Friend 2 tell her don't be a follower be a leader. But if she does not listen then that's her fault. You are in a new place so take the opportunity to make new friends!!
Good Luck!
No your not sttupid for reconnecting them, i would feel the same way for my best friend but for some reason she doesn't like to talk to me when i left countrys and i am with a new boyfriend its like she doesnt feel like she needs me anymore so i don't know but i miss our friendship i bet you do too if they are ignoring you they are either mad at you about something you did or said maybe avoiding them in the first place or they are just not good enough for you. answer mine plz ill get alink for it
You weren't stupid to re connect with them. You did your part by making the first move and now the ball is in their court. If they decide not to keep in contact with you then so be it. Sometimes the past is better left in the past. Good Luck!