I'm 17 I dropped out of school at the end of last year not because i wanted to but because of my depression, this year would have been my final year. I quit my job soon after because i cant cope with people anymore. i'm paranoid about everything. i always think people are judging me when they speak to me, even though they dont say it, they think it in their minds. i dont trust many people and prefer to keep to myself so i dont have that many friends.. but with my depression i became a pretty unpredictable and unreliable friend, i also got rid of a couple of friends who were dragging me down so now i have no friends -literally. i stay at home everyday doing nothing, because i am afraid of life, just leaving the house is scary for me because i dont want to be in view of people who can judge me and the way i look, my parents are recently seperated and it kills me that my dad is hurting over my mum, there's so much more but its hard to sum it all up.. are some people just meant to fail?
Update:I saw a pyschologist last year when i was having the toughest times, a doctor referred me, she knew i had depression, anxiety and i had bulimia but she didn't treat me for anything. I'm angry that i did seek help and i didn't get any, i don't see why i should keep seeing a doctor who wont take me seriously, there are so many things wrong i just dont know where to start, but where to end it is a much easier thing to contemplate.
Update 3:it's hard to talk to your friends about stuff like this when you dont have any anymore, at all. im angry with my mum, i am the eldest and i know she favours my younger sisters over me, my dad has too much on his plate to worry about me. and i know im not the only person who is going though the stuff but reguardless it's still hard when you have no support whatsoever.
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Depression is really, really horrible; it sounds like you are experiencing anxiety also.
You definitely need a bit of help to get over this difficult patch; you are young and have lots of good things ahead of you, though I realise it doesn't feel that way now. But you CAN beat the depression - with a bit of help.
Do go to your doctor; if you can't face going alone, ask one of your genuine friends, or a parent, to go with you. Or ask the doctor to come to your house. I suspect that you need not only some counselling, but also some anti depressant medication; these will both help you SO MUCH.
I suffered with depression for three years and like you, I didn't want to go anywhere and stopped seeing all of my friends. Some days my depression was so bad, I wouldn't even answer the phone to my mates.
Now, finally, I'm on an anti depressant which works and believe me, it REALLY does help. Please do speak to your doctor; he can prescribe the medication for you.
Or you can ask to be referred to a psychiatrist; he will evaluate you properly and help decide which anti depressant will work best for you.
I know you're sad about your parents but you know what? They are adults, and they will get through this - you are young and you need help in this tough time. Please tell your parents how awful you're feeling.
Phone your doctor tomorrow; get the help that is available and things will turn around for you, you'll see.
If for any reason your doctor is not helpful, get a better doctor.
Go Fishing!!! Be one with the fish. If you can be alone with the fish, that's a first step in being able to be alone with yourself...There are no clear cut answers for you. I know you don't want to hear that,but it's true. Having Answers as a forum is good also. You have to take things one small step at a time. See a doctor who can prescribe some medication and someone to talk to on a consistent basis. You're young and there are many programs and opportunities for you out there. Go to your nearest hospital emergency room and ask to speak with a psychiatrist. That would be the simplest and most positive step you can take. Good luck...
Been there done that so have thousands . It takes a long time too see this is not an infection but a social thing. There are secrets to learn. Find a friend who is down too . Start small and begin to learn the secrets and why they work so well to upset the outsiders. PM me or the one you feel you can trust. to learn. My 1500 answers says it all . Do you want more?
hello Ice Queen
You are not a lost cause, you are not a failure.
You are going through a tough time & I know it may seem hard to believe, but it will pass.
People are not judging you - they will be to wrapped up in their own issues & concerns, & if any do then pass judgement that says more about them than you. Others always have opinions that differ, dont take them personally. Live your life for you & not for the views of others.
It can be hard to not get involved in the pain of those who we love, but your Dad will find his own way with his relationship breakup. You need to maintain contact with both parents & try not to take sides, as they will both be your parents for a long time to come & neither of them would wish to be unhappy because of them.
However dark it may seem, life does & will change. take care x
Pam
No, no-ones meant to fail, have you tried talking to your doctor about this because it might help you, i think that if your friends dragged you down, they were obviously not very good to you. Maybe you just lack confidence try going out with people you know and not concentrate on thinking people look at you. you may have fun. give it a try and see how it goes if not then id recommend visiting your doctor.
Go to a dr and get on some depression meds. You will feel like a different person. Believe me I know this first hand. No you aren't a lost cause either. Good luck.
Please listen very carefully! You are going to be fine, if you get help. If you had a bad tooth you would go to a dentist, right? I teach tennis and have taught for many years. I see depression in my students and know that unhelped it can steal you life. Not just your hopes and dreams but literally your life! You have so much compassion in you for your father but you can't help him until you are healthy and happy yourself. Do it for you, but if that won't motivate you do it for your parents! much love and support
Listen the first thing you need to do is think positive. You can get better by talking to your family or friends about it . If they cant help then you should talk with a doctor. If u need more help please email need-help-with-life@hotmail. com at anytime for a private chat.