im 14 in the 9th grade, and people have made fun of me cause im fat 179lbs, and im black i have ugly short brown hair and a big gap in my teeth and pimples on my face, and people think im weird cause i listen to screamo music and skateboard, ive never had a best friend or a boyfriend cause i have a boring personality , i cry every night before i go to sleep, i never go out on weekends, ive been starving my self for a week and half now and i think god will punish me if i eat, and now i have a bad cold i wanna be skinny like 70lbs cause that'll make my life easier and i wanna be a model too and i like emo/scene guys but they only like the super skinny anorexic girls i just wanna go hide in my closet forever and cry until i die i dont deserve anything in life cause im not skinny and pretty im fat and ugly i dont deserve anything good in life i wanna get help but idk where to go im scared im tired of crying and depression i wanna be happy for once in my life i wanna have a best friend i can share secrets with and a boyfriend i can love and be with and kiss and everything idk what to do help:(
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Girl, you're 14. You're still growing! You probably won't stop growing until at least 16 - 18. Your body needs food and nutrition.
Stop starving yourself! Your body will react by eating away at whatever it's stored up in your stomach and you won't lose any weight whatsoever.
I used to weigh 175 at 5"4 and I was damn sexy. I enjoyed my curves and even though I'm at 200 pounds I still consider myself damn sexy. It's all about your mentality. Don't let the media make you think you have to look a certain way to be accepted.
"i wanna be skinny like 70lbs cause that'll make my life easier".
Darling, I was 195 when my mother died, if I had been 70 or 270 pounds I still would have had the same reactions, the same grief, the same amount of time spent missing her. It doesn't MATTER what size you are, it's your confidence in yourself.
The pimples are probably a part of puberty. Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you're a beautiful young woman, inside and out.
Hang in there!!!
You're not ugly. No one is. If you're over weight starving yourself is the absolute WRONG thing to do. Cut your portions in half, but when you starve yourself your body will store more fat because it's been deprived. As for your skin, drink LOTS of water, that really helps. Take up a skin regiment to manage the acne. Clean n Clear makes a mild soap and it's pretty cheap, and their toner is great too. Wash your face every day and follow that with a lotion and your skin will start to clear up. Diet also has a lot to do with skin. Healthy skin comes from healthy eating and normal sleep. Also maybe you should mix up your choice in music for a bit too, something a little more happy for when you're feeling down. 70lbs is WAY to skinny, btw. Look up BMI. It's body mass index and that will tell you what your ideal wait is. Don't just sit around sad and wait to lose weight and boost confidence. Start exercising. It releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy and the exercise will be good for weight loss too. Everything else will come in time. Be nice to people, but if they're mean to you then they don't deserve your kindness either.
okay not to crush ur dreams im in 9th grade am 14 years old weigh 95lbs have clear skin have long brown hair and have never had a boyfriend! i get over it yeah having one would be nice but idc if he likes me the grest if he doesnt oh well. and to lose weight run dont starve urself. 70 llbs at our age is only healthy if ur 4.5 feet. best friends are cool so to get u one u actually gotta be loud and obnoctious and go up to some girl and be lk YO WANNA BE BE FRIENDS and she will go YO SURE IF YOU STOP YELLING and then u go YO FRIDAY WELL PARTY HARD MY PLACE TEXT IT! and shell go I THOUGHT I TOLD U TO STOP YELLING and u go oh yes cell number 9999999 and she goes see u then. that how i made all my frineds XD! and if u dont lk ppl making fun of u for skateboarding then trie a hobby lk soccer ther r alot hott guys in that sport to. and crying just ruins eyeline so dont cry some who lies really sucks is... some poor little boy in africa who wishes he was fat cause he can see his ribs. he has o music to listen to and the only friends he has are the flies around his poop cause theres no toilet but he will have a girl friend someday that will give him aids. he doesnt kill himself because he nos that yeah his life is suckish but its life live while u can cause this is who he is this is why he is here... thats a life that sucks but at the end of the day hes greatful for the food he gets once a week.
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i know you wanna change urself but remmeber first of all b4 you change yourself one of teh biggest mistakes that happens is a gurl goes over board and thinks"oh im skinny now im so hot"and they go out and whore themselfs sadly.work out dont starve urself your actually just reduceing the water in your body not the fat and dont hate yourself
hmm. i'd say eat healthier foods (; drink water exercise , go to a hair salon , or do anything you'd like to make yourself hot , but hotness comes from the inside GOOD LUCK
I think it's time to lower your expectations. Be REALISTIC.