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Kitty,

Get a battery operated buddy "BOB" and show your husband how you and BOB can have a great evening ... perhaps it will spark a flame.

Talk to him ..... let him know what you need.

HAS your hubby started practicing celebacy..

if no then see that he gets enough food to have sexual energy left for you..

Your husband is loving to u but not interested in your body... how to solve this, ???

Does he take enough rest,, does he have peace at work, or does he get strssed out at work so that he has no energy to love you..

if he is ready to appreciate your situaltion , he only can help you by regaining his lost appetite in you..

1-both of you need to have open, frank and fearless communication abt this issue...

2- both of you must be healthy physically and mentally , so that both can give and take the Love, and ***

3- Is he not overambitious about his job, business, such that he diverted his energy and lost interest in sex..

4- is he doing some Indian religious spiritual practices with or without your knowledge..

5 - has he taken celibacy too seriously

6- are you not cooking delicious food.

7-are you nagging while making love , you understand that while making love no male likes any disturbance except moving body up and down...

8 is he angry at you for the things he did not want you to do and you did or vice versa

9 has he incurred a debt which he feels to tell you openly.

10 ARE YOU TOO easily available to him even when he does not demand love from you.. Abundance creates aversion and shortage of it makes one dry.

11 Has he taken the KamaSutra too literally, and Tantra talks too seriously

12 Has he also fantasy of superhuman performances as shown in porn movies..

Ok, calm down.. your both in your mid thirties.. and while ur hitting ur sexual peak, he's hitting a sexual low, i know its a cruel joke god has played on us.. but its very real. alot of men lose their sexual drive starting in their mid 30's they seem to be able to go long periods of time with out even wanting to have sex. and us as women , we take it personally when theres actually nothing wrong with us, or our relationship with our man, they are just at an age where some men are starting to lose some of their testosterone and their not as sexually charged anymore, remember guys hit their peak in their late teens early 20's.. so his peak is over, and although alot of men, can be sexually charged way into their golden years alot of men in their 30's and 40's start going through this early on, they love having sex with u, they just dont feel the desire to have sex very often any more.. its NOT you, its them, and its normal what they are going through but there are different things that can help them.. also, Men that smoke, drink, or have a high caffeene intake sometimes tend to go through this more then others that eat healthy and dont drink, or smoke.. so look at ur husbands diet as well..

hi i am in a simular position its a very frustrating one,. my husband is the same and ive tried it all to get him interested apart from the usual over the top male fantasy stuff like 3 somes ect lol but like you im not sure what to do, have you tried dressing up? or getting naked in front of him while hes watching the telly? have you told him how you feel i know there are men out there who do care and may not realise how you feel maybe your husband is one of them. on the far end of the spectrum though do you have doubts of him being faithful to you? i hate to say things like that as i dont want to be the reson for an argument or rift. you obviously love him though. so i wish you all the best

It might not be you. He might have some medical problem that keeps him from having a normal sex drive. In that case he should go to a good doctor who's knowledgable about sexual difficulties. If you're sure he's not cheating and he doesn't turn out to have a medical problem, you can always try thinking of what you know of that gets him romantic and do that.

Well, as a matter of fact, u may try to dress some sexy clothes which is ur husband like, flirting with him doesn't make u seem to be slut for him, I dont know how, just to be a little more initiative and u will see how it's going.

do something more interesting instead of juz lying in bed. like sexy pajamas, watch porn movie, role-playing, uniforms. Or juz prepare a romantic dinner & play some relaxing music., or go for a short vacation. Juz do something unusual to bring back his interest.

however, you should be pleased tat yr love is not solely based on sex. Tat's true Love

Try going back to what gave you a spark in the first place !

But then maybe your relationship was not based on sex !

And if it was based on sex, well you know!

But if there was a spark at the start, and the relationship was or was not based on sex, well then welcome to the wonder/full world of undecided relationships, either discuss the problem, "OR" grab yourself one of those sexy, thin, transparent, revealing, provocative, insinuating, pieces of thread, and slooooowwwwllllyyyyy meander in front of him from left to right, if this does not work, check his pulse!!!

Maybe there is nothing wrong with you and it's him. Maybe his junk doesn't work as good as it used to. Some guys have issues with their erections. if there is nothing wrong with like that then maybe you should talk to him about it. tell him you dont know what happened between the two of you.

men peak in their 20's...we in our 30's..talk about timing....there is a few things...it'll even make you feel better about yourself...new hair style, better fitting clothes...longer times away from home...somethings are dome in strides...trust me....I'm on here...and my man is sleeping...Sex fades away sometimes after a few years. Some men are sex maniac's and some aren't....guess which one he is. Most of the time it has nothing to do with us...they just aren't in to it. I know it drives me nuts....but that's it.