Do you feel guilty spending money on yourselves? While my baby hasn't been born yet, I've already run into this situation. My husband and I are dead broke right now. To the point where he is getting another job delivering pizzas on top of being active duty in the navy. While I can't work right now for medical reasons.
Well my mom and sister are sending me $200 to buy maternity clothes because I don't have any and am in desperate need of some. But I just feel so guilty spending so much money on clothes when we could pay bills or buy things we need for the baby. But they told me that clothes are the *only* thing I can use this money for.
Do you feel guilty spending money on yourselves over you family?
Update:I haven't bought anything for myself (besides certian snacks while grocery shopping) In who knows how long. It started with my sister sending me $100. Then she told my mom who decided to add on another $150. She made me swear to her that 100 will go to clothes and 50 to groceries and household nessecitys (such as toilet paper, because we happen to be out of that too lol).
I just feel selfish...
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yes i know how you feel when i had my first i was 18 and didn't think i would be able to support me let alone a baby and people were giving me money left and right and it made me feel guilty, not independent and like a little kid again.....lol but i knew that it would get better and it did get a lot better lol to the point where i can stay home and have number 2 lol good luck!!! and congratulations!
Yeah, I know how you feel. There's no way I would be comfortable spending $200 on maternity clothes for myself when I know we need other things. We are in a similar situation, and honestly I'd take the $200 and go to Goodwill, buy some clothes and save the rest or use the rest of the money on other things that the family needs.
I feel completely guilty when I have to spend money on myself. I hardly ever do it because there is always something more important the money could be spent on. My husband's job isn't a very good job, there isn't any good jobs around right now, so finances are stretched so tight we are actually always 1-2 weeks behind so I know how important every last cent is. I have been holding onto 38 dollars for a week now to buy my girls some more gifts for christmas since they only have a couple presents even though my only pair of maternity shorts just split down the middle. I would feel horrible if I was to spend that money on myself so I will just sew my pants tomorrow. It's just something that parents do I guess. You always feel the needs of your children are way more important than yours. I can always go without as long as my girls look good and have nice shoes on their feet, ya know? My husband feels the same way, whatever extra money he gets he'll hand it straight to me and tell me to get the girls what they need or to take his girls to lunch even though that means he will have to settle for a bologna sandwhich again. So, it's just something that you will feel until your kids are grown and out of your home. My mother now feels guilty if she spends money on herself if there was something she could of bought her grandkids! lol so, actually no.. maybe it's something you'll have to deal with forever. Have a great christmas!
In your situation, i would definately feel guilty. If they are insisting you spend it only on clothes (which i think is kind of rude when they know money is tight) then i would by some basics that could carry you through to after the pregnancy, and maybe sneek a few needed baby items in here and there.
OH YEA!! I never buy stuff for me anymore. I bought a pair of shoes like 4 months ago that cost 25 bucks but I kept thinking maybe I could use this for something else.
When it comes to my daughter or husband (a military man as well) I will spend what it takes but for me, I kinda feel like I am taking away from the house.
If I were you I would do what the first person suggested and just use alitte of the money to buy clothes (because I know how it is to have NOTHING that fits haha) and save the rest or get things you will need for the baby. Your mom and your sister wont know the difference and they should understand anyways. you have to do whats right for your family, as well as yourself.