Parents possibly divorcing?

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Parents possibly divorcing?

This is going to be very long so I'm just putting that out there. My mom and my step dad (which is like my dad because he's been there for me when my real dad wasn't) haven't been talking for days. Which is pretty normal they get into little arguments and don't speak for a few days quite often but it's been a week since they've spoken to each other. Two days ago my mom talked to me about how she didn't want to live in our house anymore and go back to the apartment she had when I was born because it "was hers" as she put it. But we have a big, nice house and for her to want to go back to her tiny apartment seemed odd to me. So I started wondering if they were getting a divorce because she's never said this to me before out of all their fights. And tonight she said she's going to spend the night in a hotel tomorrow night and have us spend the night with our grandmother. This worries me that they are splitting up and she's going to go hook up with people. I'm starting high school next week so this is not helping me. So are they getting a divorce because I don't have the courage to ask my mom. Again sorry for it being so long lol

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Anonymous

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This is a hard situation, because it is like you are on the outside looking in. My ex-wife and I got divorced and I had a step daughter in the marriage what I raised since she was six years old. I was her Dad, and still am even after the divorce.

So here is my opinion.

I know it is hard to talk to your Mom, but you really need to do it. If you want an answer, you need to get it from her. I may be hard to ask her, but it is even harder to wait and see if it will actually happen. There may be other things happening that you don't know about in their relationship. Sometime financial problems make parents argue a lot. Sometime little things they do drive the other person crazy. Don't jump to conclusions that your Mom is going out to hook up with someone else unless you know that is right for sure. She may just need a break.

Go talk to her. Wait for the right time and be honest about the situation with her. Tell her you are upset and just want to make sure everything is okay. Tell her that you love both of them, and you are worried about them. If you do that, she should respect the fact that you are making the effort and should be honest with you.

Good luck and make sure you are prepared for either answer. There is alway a chance a divorce may be a reality. It is hard, but it is harder not to know the answer.

Anonymous

First of all I want to say that I'm sorry that you're going through hard times with your family, we've all been there. My parents divorced when I was very young and the separation had a major affect on my upbringing. Now, I'm sorry, but there's no way for me to tell you whether or not they are about to divorce. What I will say, though, is that couples go through ups and downs just like everybody else and every obstacle is a chance to learn and grow (both as a couple and as a family). Nobody on this site could tell you for sure where they are headed. There's absolutely no way to know where someone's heart or mind is. My best suggestion is that you should talk to your mom or stepdad. Wait until they're calm and approachable and just tell them that you're concerned. There's no other way to find out. I understand it's hard, but from your post it seems like you're old enough to approach them and ask.

I know that's probably not the answer you wanted, but it's what I would do if I were in your situation. Just remember that you will get through this, and that there are better days ahead. :)