Well im 13 and ive hung out with the same group of people for years because they were my friends. I had about 3 close friends but i can`t really talk to them like i used to and all my other firends always ignore me and i feel like they don`t want to be around me anymore. I mean ill be at lunch and ill call them to say something and they start talking to somebody new. They never ask me to go do anything and when i make plans with them they just blow me off last minute and sometimes i find out it was to hang out with somebody else. Please how i make new friends. I dance and can`t join any new clubs. I`m kinda shy around new people but am confident when i get to know them.Pleas they are being really rude to me and i feel so diffrent because they are all friends with people i don`t know and i feel like a total loser when they are naming all these people and i don`t know any of them. I just don`t know what i can do. Can i still be friends with them? If not how can I make new friends which i would kind of rather to do
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It really sounds like you’re going through an amazingly difficult situation. I’m sorry you’re struggling so much right now. Feeling outcast from your own group can cause a ton of anxiety
It might be helpful to understand that during the teenage years our friends sometimes go through a lot of personality changes. When we're young we're really trying to figure out who we really are, and we go through times when we lose touch with what really matters to us or more specifically what really mattered before. Don't think of your friends as enemies, just understand that you are all going through a turbulent time.
So let’s try to problems solve. Maybe it would be a good idea for you to try to expand and make some new friends, but you should keep your old friends in mind. You will probably find that as you become more independent, your friends may gravitate back to you. Don't chase them around anymore, that will only make them feel like they can keep being aloof with you. Give them space and focus on you and your relationships.
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i went through the same thing basically but it's really easy to get through. Just be yourself and have confidence even when you're shy. I'm a horribly shy person but i have tons of friends all over the state. I run cross country and track, im in venture scouts, other programs that make it so i travel and are around tons of new people. I'll just start talking to them somehow about a subject and boom; instant friendship. we'll talk and hang afterwards and become really great friends.
It's fine to be shy but don't let that stop you from being yourself. Just be yourself and if someone likes it then there you go. friendship. I barely talked my freshman year of high school and was the slowest runner on the c.c. team at the beginning of the season and i just moved to that town from my parents ranch. By the end of that season i was the 3rd for the team behind the senior captain and a junior. Now it's my senior year and I was 1st for my c.c. team. the freshman and sophmores on the team call me freshman mom cuz i look out for them and encourage them to do there best. I'm homecoming queen and president of my venture crew. Shyness is something anyone can overcome. All you got to do is be yourself.
Well I'm shy too. I am kind of having the same situation. My two bestfriends are saying I'm fake, immature, snobby, two-faced, and every other name in the book. All I did was be there for them when they needed it and I also did a lot of things for them(more than I can count) but a of a sudden they ignore me and say rude things about me. I just chose to ignore them and find new friends. If they were really your friend then thy wouldn't be treating you like that.
It sounds like you have some toxic friends. You should not feel like you are blessed to hang out with them, they are lucky to have you. Either try and get in with the new click by talking to the new kids or just forget them and make friends that are nice to you and give you the friendship you deserve. I would approach them and tell them how you feel and that you aren't having it anymore. Good luck
Tlk 2 ur "friends" and let them kno how u feel, put them in a situation where they cnt ignore u, also 2 mke new friends in class jst ask some1 a ? N start a discussion, then after awhile ask if u can hng w/ them @ lunch n things will fall into place, sry this is happening 2 u hope I hlpd! â 3)
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"Friends are just people you see everyday." - my quote
I'm about to abandon my friends because they are being just rude and selfish completely...
There will be new people it may take awhile (maybe even 4-6 years :'( )
but yeah...