There is this boy that I'm in a band with and he is stunning with his big hair and the way he plays guitar! We talk all the time and I feel so deeply for him and he says he feels the same and wants to be with me and cant stop thinking about me.
Anyway I'm anorexic/bulimic (yes, i know it's bad for me you don't need to tell me its a big stupid problem of mine), but today after band practice when everyone left, we hugged for about 10 mins and we were squeezing each other so tight and i could feel his heart beating on my chest and it was just the best hug ever, then after that i had dinner and i didn't even throw it up, I didn't want to, i didn't need to because for once i felt beautiful already.
But theres another thing getting in the way, I have a boyfriend that I've been with for two years, but for the most part of those two years if been so unhappy and felt unloved and UN-BEAUTIFUL. But we have been together for so long I can get myself out of it, I'm lost in the relationship! Please help, I'm so confused and I don't know what to do about this situation.
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Get out of the relationship before it gets worse.
The band guy seems more like he could take care of you,
and be there for you and make you seem beautiful.
Think about it, you get out of the relationship youre in now,
and you overcome your problems of anorexic and bulimic.
Well, how old are you? By the sound of you tone and voice in the article, you seem pretty young, such as 15 or 16. Boyfriend/girlfriends at that age come and go. If you heart is somewhere else, I suggest you follow that path. There is no point in staying in a relationship just because you were with them for so long. The only anchor that should be keeping you and your boyfriend together would be if their is a child involved, but as you are quit young, I am assuming you don't have a child, thus nothing is really keeping you together. If your afraid of hurting his feelings, then let him know that you had fun for a while, but the fun seems to have stopped along the lines of....(insert problem of relationship here) and (insert another problem of relationship here). If you let them that you need some time alone and you are not happy in the relationship, the boy will understand, if he doesn't, then he is just ignorant. Don't let the a dead relationship hold you back, pull the chord and move on to where your heart is telling you to go. I know it may sound a little cliche', but it is the right thing to do. Btw, I am a straight male, and have had a girl do this to me before. I got over it quick and moved on.
I think the best thing for you to do is to go with what makes you happy. If you're unhappy in the relationship you're in now, then you should end it. It probably won't be easy, it'll hurt for a while, but it seems like it's the best thing you can do. Go with the guy that makes you feel beautiful. I too struggle with anorexia, and I think it's so awesome that someone can make you feel so beautiful and make you not want to use bad behaviors. Maybe going with this other guy will help you in your road to recovery. In the end, it's all up to you. Hope I helped. I wish you the best.
well first of all....having a eating disorder is not something you can just stop.....I went through years of being bulimic.
I still get urges....But I just have to tell myself "I'm beautiful the way I am....I don't need to do this"
I think you should really break it off with your boyfriend....If you are unhappy then that will just make you depressed.....and being stressed and sad like that makes your eating disorder worst.
That's how I am.....If ever I was in a bad situation like this my disorder would get worst.
I know that it is hard to break it off with someone you have been with for so long....but It's something you have to do not only for you but for him.
He needs to know how you feel....don't give him false hope....the break up will be worst.
Let him move on with his life as well.
Be with the guy who makes you happy and feel good.
You can beat this eating disorder.....You have to be strong....Be as happy as you can be.
Don't let things get in your way.
It will all be hard....But worth it in the end.
Good Luck....!