Im so upset!! My mom wont let me get the horse of my dreams. I've owned before, I know the responsibilities, and I'm an advanced western rider.
I've been suicidally depressed for 3 years, and riding is ALL I live for. I want to work with horses for the rest of my life. I'm going to college in a year, and I want this mare to bring with me.
She's perfect.
Well mannered.
Sweet.
Friendly.
Well broke.
UTD
Not spooky.
My mom says that she can't even think about it. We're tight on money, and I know that, but I told her I would get a second job, sell my phone, truck and anything else to afford her. She's has a $500 buying fee and then $250 a month for the winter.
PLEASE HELP ME CONVINCE MY MOM! HORSES ARE MY EVERYTHING!
Update:But that's the thing. I CAN afford her. I HAVE the money. Like I said, SECOND JOB. I fell in love with this horse. I need her and she needs me.
Update 3:... I have gotten help. I'm on medication. The only time I'm happy is when I'm with horses. And I don't want to lease because I'll fall in love, and the horse won't be mine and I'll have no say on anything that happens to it.
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Threatening suicide is not going to get you anywhere - except a one way ticket to the local psychiatric ward and is manipulative.
Either leave home, get the second job (if you can - but can you keep up with caring for a horse when you are working two jobs?)
Grow up.
Your parents are not obliged to give in to your threats and many people have to do without a horse. They are also not obliged to tell you their financial situation. They have mortgages/rent to cover, water bills, local taxes, electricity and gas, run a car and so on. It might not be fair to them to expect to get a horse as well! Do you want to become homeless? Because that is what will happen if they start trying to spread the money still further!
Ok, get your second job right now. You will need much more than basic board money too, so use this second job to save up for vet, floating, vaccines etc. Try lease the mare (on a lease to buy) for a year before you go to college.
Now, things to consider. Can you get 2 jobs and keep up your grades? Can you get to your job without a truck? Will you able to go off to college, get two jobs, probably absorb an increase in rent for you and expenses and still have time to ride?
I think your mom may already be thinking of all these things. Not to mention that until you get your depression under control, YOU should be your first priority, not a horse.
Good luck, however this turns out.
i understand how you feel horses use to be my life as well the only thing i had good in my life but you need to understand that horses are a VERY big expense the horse its self may only be $500 (which is very cheap for a trained horse) but you have to think about boarding, food and vet visits this is where all the money goes. vets are never cheap the coggins test alone is around $100 and that must be done once a year, not to mention shots and check ups. the $250 a month will only cover food and boarding not anything with a vet. and if anything major happens to the horse your talking in the thousands for a vet and trust me horses are curious animals they will get hurt. my advice to you is wait save your money (there will be a better horse i promise) than when your 18 they cant tell you no and you can get one on your own
If your that depressed then you should get help you'll feel better.and also cause if you get the horse and things go wrong for you then what about your horse?if you have already gotten help good for you! if you think you can handle it then get the second job and buy your horse.but you'll need your truck to transport your horse unless you pay someone to do for you.if your going to college your old enough to buy her if you want but think it through will you have the time for her with school and work cause your mom wont be able to help you'll have to afford her on your own it's hard enough keeping a horse and what if she needs to see the vet that is EXPENSIVE!!,it will be all on you.Stress adds to depression i have experience with depression.i'm all for horses i own 3.they need their teeth floated once a year $50-$75 feet done every6- 8 weeks $25-$40 and wormed every 6-8 weeks price varies with wormers form $7-$15 that's on top of your monthly keeping fee not trying to be mean just make sure you can do it if you think you can go for it but first you need a job then good luck and have fun!!
Ok forst calm down :) ok talk to the people and see if you can pay them off slowly like a hundred here and some there.. If your going to college soon you are old enough to have your own horse I am only 15 and I own four. And they are my responsibility. I have to pay for their food, equipment, and stuff. If I can't I have to sell them... If YOU have the money buy her.. If you end up not being able to take care of her then sell her to a friend or something. Although horses are unpredictable and they can make your depression worse. but only get her if you are sure this is the only way.. If this is what you need do it.. Its not your mom's decision anymore its YOURS. :) hope this helps.. If you need anything else you can email me.. [email protected]
Life is tough when you're young. I know.
But you have to suck it up.
My eldest brother shot himself when I was 12, and I had to live with that sans-therapy until I was 18 and moved out to get help. Yeah, I absolutely loved horses, but family situations are tough on the parents as well as the younguns.
Yeah, you want to buy it with your own money. So what? What if getting the horsie doesn't make you happy and you kill yourself?
Your parents are stuck with a dead child and a neglected horse.
It may sound harsh, but like I said, life is tough.
Keep taking your meds, and keep seeing a therapist.
Your parents want you to focus on BEING HEALTHY, and that's most likely the reason they don't want you getting the horse.
But hey, you don't have to listen to someone who's BEEN THROUGH IT if you don't want to.
You need to find something else to make you happy. Horses aren't a reliable thing, even just being around them.
But when it comes to this horse, you shouldn't buy her until you get this 2nd job and have more money. I'm glad you're dedicated enough to put all your time into this, but imagine- you work 2 jobs, plus I'm assuming you go to school... When are you going to find the time to see her?
Until you're a legal adult or can sign all the papers, you have no control unfortunately.
Good luck.
First off who is paying for college? Second, aren't we being a bit prima donna? Assuming the depression bit is real, which I doubt, treatment is more important than getting your dream horse right now.
This reeks of spoiled rotten brat syndrome.
maybe see if you can work off the board? in all reality though, if money is tight then it probably won't happen. if you could work off the board then maybe suggest that if you are unable to meet the financial needs of the horse that you will sell it immediately or give it away.
Tell her about you being depressed and tell her you will do anything just to get her. Also ask the owners if you can do payments for her so you dont have to pay the whole 500 dollars at one time.. Feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to im a good listener.. [email protected]