Whilst looking through questions, i seen someone left a comment which kinda annoyed me it said repress yourself, dont express yourself!??? what would you make of that.
I always had this philosophy that when someone says something which they seem to truely believe that best thing to do is agree with them, because i feel we all need something to believe in and that we were best dying happy believing in what we think rather than have our belief system shattered, because i feel that is what truely destroys us. So therefore I have never corrected anyone when i thought they may be wrong or have hurt peoples feelings, and have always in many ways disliked those that have and stood against them, I guess hoping to protect others but have i been wrong, in hoping to spare people feelings am I infact doing wrong?
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Interesting question. When someone says something wrong, do you repress or express your reaction to their words? Whenever I feel like I am protecting someone else by repressing how I feel, I feel discordant inside.
I say, express how you think in the way that feels best to you. You don't have to confront someone. In the safe space of you in front of your computer, let your chest release its tension and curse out loud, if you can.
Saying someone is wrong and telling them so verbally is not the worst thing that can happen. Repressing your reaction and doing so over and over again eventually becomes intolerable inside, and ends up as unleashed mental aggression far more potent than mere words. Your tense body finds relief in physical attack.
Be conscious of your body, and not only your philosophy. Aggression is natural and can even be productive and taken calmly, receptively, by the person who said that immature thing.
Once, in high school, my brother got into a fist fight with another boy he felt was treating him wrong. The boy was looking at him funny or saying something rude. They tumbled and knocked into lockers and parted the crowded hallways of the school. The principle set them apart and took them to his office. He went out for a minute. They looked at each other, and started laughing. They became best friends, and even now, 10 years later, and a thousand miles apart, still are.
Which is why I think your words of protecting other's feelings is noble, but still overprotective. Sometimes patterns of thought are still flexible, and open to more intelligent input. Just figure out when.
Sometimes it is a kindness to not say what should be said,and avoid hurting someone's feelings.On the other hand,it can be a disservice not to tell a person what they need to be told.In the end,you can't really tell anyone anything--they have to find out for themselves.There's nothing wrong with gently pushing them in the right direction,however.
I say express yourself,but use discretion.
You are not wrong. To care about others feelings is the Way. It is love. Here is Madonna:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mJq7-oyEYaY
She tells us to ''express yourself''. There are Satanic pentagrams in the video. The Word 'Fear' is carved into her dancers' hair.
John Stuart Mills: My freedom/your freedom ends where another sentient being begins. We consider a drunken lout who savagely attacks another on the streets as just that; a savage. We do not say, he is ''expressive''.
Express yourself in pretty pictures and dresses, if you must, by all means ^_^
Tough choice. Timing is everything. Both are right, depending on the circumstances. They say that silence is gold.
What Is The Meaning Of Life?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b98vi-Ypgdg&feature...
Sorry , but sometimes when people give an opinion which is bias, racist or hurtful , then one should tell them it's wrong. In allowing them to think they are right, only convinces them they are right.
But in correcting or pointing out they are wrong, one must explain why truthfully.
If you give your opinion when it is not asked for, it will skim of the person's brain like a rock off a river. If a person is worthy of your opinion, then your silence will drive them to ask for it, and it will sink to the bottom.