i am always in my room i dont leave at all, i force my self to go out but i limit my self to areas close to my place. i dont have friends, i am a girl. whenever i try to make new friends girls leave me for other plans and boys try to touch me inappropriately. so now i have no one to talk to.
i bought a bike so i go around, i am to scared to go for a ride.
my questions are:
do people go out everyday??!!
do people go to further places every weekend?
can u suggest something for me so i dont lock my self in all the time?
i go to parks sometimes but i have no friends so do have any suggestions?
i am in hertfordshire
please dont be mean, i am already miserable
Update:do normal people apply for jobs even if they have to travel for 1 hour ? back and forth to their work place ??
Update 3:i am 27 i live alone, i ll start masters this september.
do people go for work to places even if it takes 1 hour to get to their work place? please answer this question too.
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omg i hate my self more
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Hi...i am 27 male..yes there are people who travel 1 hr to reach the workplace..it takes me 2 hrs to reach it)....what you described was what I went through some years back..some of those old thoughts still crop up in my head but i have learnt to ignore them and get rid of them through various tools i use thanks to the self help community....
I realized that I had to take control of myself and my life..that I have only one life to live..
I suggest you do positive affirmations on self confidence and self esteem everyday first thing in the morning and before bed..they definitely worked for me...google them...also read good books such as "magic of thinking big" by david schwartz, the power of positive thinking by normal vincent peale,,"the magic of believing" is another good one...
Tell yourself in the mirror everyday with feeling and conviction that you believe in yourself, that you are great and that you deserve the best...Be authentic..Hold ur head up..be authentic and genuine with others..Be a caring person but don't worry about what others think of you..Live your own life..Follow your goals and passions..Be happy.Get rid of negative friends...Get positive friends who build you up...
Also, watch the movie "The Secret"..1st 20 minutes free on youtube..Remember "you become and attract what you think about most of the time"...If you think that the world is out to get you, it will look like it....You can train your mind to think and feel in new ways...and you will then attract better results into your life.
Meeting a counsellor can also help.
Good luck)
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