Im 15 years old. I have been bullied all my life in school since the 3rd grade. After about 5th grade... it caused me to have social phobia because people would always torment my looks and my "BIG BONEDNESS" Its caused me to drop outta school and forced to be locked up in my house. Like i cant go outside if a neighbor is standing there... i always have like this shyness that he/she is looking at my appearence. Is there like a way i could treat this? I used to be social and have friends and everything, but the past 4 years ive been kind of a loner. Which i like very much. I dont know, i just love being by myself.
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well if you really want to get rid of your problem. You just have to be brave. You have to understand that soem people will like youm, and some will not. If you have a hobby you enjoy, try getting out there and joining a club or something. The best way to meet people is to meet people with similar interests.
Above all, don't be afraid and just have fun!
I am not sure where you are from there is an organisation in the uk called triumph over phobia who run support groups. There are also a few groups in other countries but not as many.
They do have a website and they have books about the subject which might be useful.
I suffer from social anxiety too when i attended the group i did not know i had it. In six months i had recovered.
There are some books you can get which might help you or you could go and see your doctor and describe your symptoms and you can be referred to a clincal pyschologist or a behavioural therapist.
The method i learned is to make a list of all the situations or things that bother you. Then start at the bottom of the list. The easiest thing for you to manage. Then keep practicing going to that place or doing that thing until you can manage it with hardly any fear or anxiety and go onto the next thing on the list.
Your confidence will build gradually and you will be able to tackle the harder things on your list until you reach the top.
I feel phobia and anxiety is linked with low self esteem so building on that will help too.
Nothing wrong with enjoying your own company, but not leaving the house is not so good. At 15 you should be up and about getting into all sorts of stuff. I would first seek some help, ask you doctor for suggestions. Treat every day as new day. Try and plan to go out somewhere near. Even if its just at night. As time goes on broaden what you do, stay out a longer go a little further. Most important is having the support both at home and on the outside. Good luck...
Mark do exactly this one little issue. Take the Briggs-Myers attempt. that is on the internet. discover out your character sort. Be a hundred% honest with the attempt, comfortable, attentive, undemanding, alert, committed. bear in mind that, you incredibly won't be able to take it two times. the 1st time is the time that counts, so make it actual, don't be cavalier, or 2d guessing, or twisted in any way whilst taking the attempt -- supply your honesty to it a hundred% -- tell the attempt approximately your self in a completely honest way. Do it with care, yet be comfortable. Phobia is a sturdy be conscious. those with a real phobia commonly land up on Paxil, or worse. you're able to be able to desire to be an INTJ (like me). So, discover out. then you definately can steer your self into occupations you will maximum possibly be good at, and you're able to be able to desire to have lots much less stress approximately your existence. you're able to be able to discover that phobia feeds on itself, so once you start up making greater suitable alternatives, given your character sort, you create a detrimental comments loop and you start up development down (or precise-sizing) your self-clinically determined "phobia". i'm in basic terms offering you with certainty right here (that is my activity as a Mentat), no longer love, so do no longer attempt to touch me, ok?
I dont get teased or bullied. But I used to and it hurt but then I grew up and changed myself till I felt beautiful which is how I feel. I have same social problems now and probally will in the future. Everyday you get up look in the mirror and however you see yourself is how everyone will see you. Just go and talk to people that make you feel good:) Ignore people who make you feel bad and everyone has thier own flaws, if YOU dont like yours then change what YOU dont like.