Im kinda a shy person and i can be really social and fun and outgoing when i get to know someone, and I'm in Freshman year of high school. My old friends and I r growing apart cuz we don't have any classes together. I want to have more friends and there are these people in someone of my classes that I've wanted to be friends with since the beginning of the year in August. But, i don't think that they want anything to do with me and that they won't like me. I know some of them, but i wanna get to know them all a bit more. I need help! I need friends! I'm already in Boys Lacrosse to help make friends, but none of those people i wanna be friends with are in it. I have conversation topics to start with them, but whenever I'm about to go and say something, i chicken out and leave. I need advice!!!!!!!!!!
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Look bro, If you think the person you're about to talk to is better than you, you'd probably get nervious and mess up everything. alright?? That's what happens, you think what would happen if they think i'm weird?? or something like what if they make fun of me??? that's all bullshit. So just go out there and don't try to impress them in any way or form. just talk to them causully and if they like you good if not talk to a different person. because if you fake you personallity and they become you friends, then you'd have to fake your personallity as long as you are with them. u see what i mean?? anyways talk to different people some won't like you some will. but be youself and don't try to impress them.
Good luck!!!
Congrats on wanting to make friends. That's good and healthy. Now for a reality check. The truth is not everyone you try to befriend will be your friend, trying to force it shows insecurity on your part and is not good. Be your best friend above all. If not no meaningful friendship can ever be formed. Another point. Real friends are few and far between in life. Don't think just because some one accepts you as you are, they will be ur friend. If u are afraid people won't like u. That's on u. Don't expect to live up to peoples expectations, if they don't wanna hang with you, their loss. Don't demean yourself so people will accept and like u. Again in short. Be your own best friend. Pick a few real close friends to be part of your circle. The rest don't matter. Accept it. Otherwise your filing yourself. Good luck.
This is an age old question that we all go through at your age. I was always a very shy person myself. The reason you're shy is you lack self confidence. The reason you chicken out is you're afraid of failing, afraid you will be rejected. Some people 'TRY' so hard, they scare people away. To make friends, the answer is simple, be yourself, be polite, be curtious. I remember an old plaque I read one time that said, "It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice." Remember, the people who are true friends will appreciate those attributes and those who don't appreciate those, won't really be your friends.